How to overcome a sense of jealousy

Contents:

• Jealousy - a sense of destroying the human psyche
• Jealous - it means love is not
• How to get rid of jealousy
• A few tips jealous ex

There is hardly a person in the world who at least once in their life, even briefly, would not experience jealousy. This negatively colored, destructive, extremely painful and unhealthy feeling that occurs when it seems that the closest person to you is not enough attentive, familiar to a greater or lesser extent, almost everything. Often jealousy takes perverted, crazy shapes when people think up and dreams, where, when, with whom and how it changes his half.

Partner jealous against his will becomes involved in the "game" of the patient's mind, and he has defensively justified in what he actually did. These endlessly repeated situation does not contribute to the strengthening of relations, so the question of how to get rid of jealousy, relevant at all times.
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Jealousy - a sense of destroying the human psyche

You can be jealous of anyone, for anything and at any age. Kid jealous parents to the younger brother or sister, a teenage girl - the best friend to his classmates, but sibling rivalry - absolutely normal phenomenon which disappears when receiving attention from parents or friends, and finally disappears with age. No adequate adult would not prohibit the mother to chat with a neighbor or a friend to colleagues, but the jealous lover of attention is never enough.

It every time it requires more and more in unlimited quantities. Adult jealousy caused a state of complete integration of another person, when the smallest of its switch to a different object causes an outcry and wounded pride. Therefore, we can say with certainty that the roots lie of jealousy and pride.

This chronic tendency to jealousy called jealous and correlate with the disease. Chronic jealous and himself is not happy, but to overcome the emotions that arise from the claims of the complete and exclusive "ownership" of the object of his adoration, unable to. These claims are constantly emerging, and although part of the real reason for them not, jealous lives in constant fear of losing. He constantly seems that someone else takes away from his love of the most important person, and he could not endure such experiences, it is in a constant state of stress, anger, anger, and resentment, which are pushing it to inadequate and foolish deeds.

According to statistics, in the sense of jealousy to some extent exposed to almost half the world's population and 27% of men and 23% of women suffer from it in hypertrophied form.

Such emotional people live an average of 10-12 years less than those who do not expose themselves to such strong emotions. After the family scandals over money jealousy is in second place, and very often, and they both end with the destruction of the family, and suffer from it most of all children. So jealous - a monster with green eyes, as it is often called - is required and can be combated.

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Jealous - it means love is not

There is a common stereotype - jealous, it means love. And many women are beginning to doubt the feelings of your partner, if there is no jealousy in relationships. In fact, this view is as true as such, as "a loving effort." The feeling of jealousy is not good, and love she is not related. In fact, love - a feeling of royalty-free, when you want to make sure that the other person was fine.

Love gives all and does not require anything in return. This bright, positive feeling can not have anything to do with jealousy and violence. Myth "jealous and beats - a loving" invented people seeking to occupy a special position, humiliating ones. There are two ways jealous woo the object of their adoration, and to make sure that he did not want to look the other way: the endless demand that he as a faithful little dog was always at his feet or make an effort, changing and having your soul mate to her. "Hardened" jealous often choose the former, thereby destroying their marriage.

Jealous - a man not sure. He is driven by the fear of loss and consequent loneliness. It is inevitable loneliness, fear, not love, makes him keep beside her partner by any means, and often wasting their lives on the relationship with the person to whom he may have by and large not needed.

Unlike women, men can be jealous of his wife, even to their common children, believing that it gives them a lot more attention than him. Men's jealousy manifests itself in the most acute desire to rule over his woman and fully restrict her freedom. Jealous is doing everything to prevent that his companion did make up, dress up, meeting with friends.

The ideal situation for him would be that a woman does not have any friends. The roots of female jealousy in most cases stem from low self-esteem. Revnivitsa needs constant confirmation by the partner in its significance and appeal to him. It requires constant confirmation on his part that it is much more beautiful and interesting than the rest of the women around him.

Let's try to formulate more precisely the main reasons that cause people to be jealous of each other:

1. Fear of losing their property. Selfishness creates possessive and too violent fantasies that have played more often jealous without any reason and reason.
2. Fear of loneliness and unsettled socially. It seems jealous that they can not normally exist (moral or material) without their partner.
3. Low self-esteem. Causes of jealousy is often rooted in uncertainty about their looks and charm.
4. Children's complexes. Many jealous build their relations on the example of the parents, where the father or mother is constantly jealous of each other.

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How to get rid of jealousy

Jealousy is like disease and get rid of this sense of self is quite difficult, because in order to learn how to manage it, you must first properly understand its causes and understand the futility of this relationship into the abyss Exciting feelings. Therefore, as with any treatment, the best solution would be to seek help from a specialist. If this is not possible, you can try to use the following, which consists of several stages, the methodology:

1. First of all have to realize that you are obsessed with jealousy, and to be honest to yourself about that. Especially difficult is the awareness given to men.
2. Then you need to understand the causes of jealousy is in your particular case. Define them, try without charges, quietly, as gently as possible to talk with your partner about the feelings that you are experiencing.
3. Be aware that your doubts, causing jealousy, may be wrong, and be prepared to listen and take the point of view of your partner. If confidence is still there, check out their doubts. Most likely you will make sure that they were wrong.

When you finally decide to win a jealous, do not take a few days to compile a written list of situations that you might provoke an outbreak of jealousy. Think detail and slowly all the options. Place them in order of increasing emotional intensity - from least to most unpleasant for you. Drawing up such a list can take several days. Do not be lazy. Think about it carefully.

Once the list is compiled, to do the most important and difficult: to enable a pleasant relaxing music, get comfortable, and one after another mentally living these situations, presenting them as detailed as possible. Do not go to the next situation, until you experience the whole range of unpleasant sensations. No need to worry about the entire list in one day, as the benefits of this will be. Gradually, this method will help to get rid of jealousy to the partner.

No matter how strong and all-consuming was no jealousy, it is always possible to overcome the main thing - sincerely want it.   Each of us is able to wonder how to get rid of jealousy, and to understand themselves, to take their feelings under control. you have to love yourself and believe in what is good in itself and worthy of love. When you really understand that the road around for who you are, without any conditions, you will be able to accept yourself and be confident in their own abilities. You no longer need to try to win the love pretending to be someone else, and lost exhausting the need to constantly keep a partner near you.

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A few tips jealous ex

Understand themselves and work on their feelings, you will be able to take their relationship to a new, free from uncontrolled levels of jealousy. For this self-destructive feeling again took the better of you, take into service a few simple rules:

• continuously develop and strengthen confidence in their self-sufficiency;
• build a relationship with a partner on mutual trust;
• spend much time together, but not to impose unnecessarily and give each other the freedom within reasonable limits;
• find something interesting occupation or hobby that will take the place of jealousy in your free time and thoughts;
• love yourself for who you are;
• treat jealousy as only one of many human emotions, do not put it at the head of your relationship;
• will not let tantrums against a loved one - aggression will not hold it, it only frightens and repels;
• Be honest, tell the partner about your fears and ask him not to provoke you,
• the feelings of its second half treated with respect.

Getting rid of jealousy require great mental strength and will take a long time. Have patience. Jealousy, like any other passion, to keep in check. On the question of how to get rid of it forever, it must be approached logically. Distrust has not made any of the family happy. Do not compare yourself with others. On Earth, more than 6 billion people, and there is always someone smarter and more beautiful than us, but that does not mean that your significant other wants to replace you with someone else. After all, she has already made its choice in your favor and is close to you. This means that it needs is you and you have something that others do not. The main thing to save the relationship - to learn from their past mistakes, become wiser and able to compromise.

How to develop self-confidence

Contents:

• A bit of psychology
• Keep a journal
• Find the positive
• Speak correctly
• Drinking appearance

Self-confident woman - self-sufficient, it does not hide from the problems and solve them.   Confident woman faces the truth, she did not need to raise your voice to someone to put in place.   Self-confident woman is not looking for praise and acknowledgments its merits and skill to treat them and their drawbacks.
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A bit of psychology

Why do some go through life with head held high, and others even lift his eyes from the ground hard? In psychology, there is the concept of "self-esteem". This is how a person evaluates himself with the professional, intellectual, sexual, attractive sides. From the amount of self-esteem and self-evaluation develops attitude toward themselves as a person. The owner of a high self - confident person, low - uncertainty. If it is too high, then we call such a person overconfident. Our psychological comfort depends on our self-esteem. You can change your life beyond recognition, finding self-confidence, but how to do it, if you're shy of his own shadow. What is confident man! How to develop self-confidence?

As psychologists say, self-confidence - confidence is a special case. Self-confidence - is the ability and the ability to govern themselves and their fears. Psychologist Jos Volpe, watching his patients, a detailed description of all of our inherent fears: fear of rejection, fear of getting into new situations, fear to be in the spotlight, the fear that you criticize, fear of inability to refuse, fear of being inferior. The development of all these fears can lead to serious psychological illness.

All these fears are in the psyche of every woman, but some are able to deal with them, and in others they are dominant behavior. Their development leads to the fact that women are constantly experiencing guilt and shame, become inactive and eventually, even stop trusting yourself and your feelings. Why is this happening?

We are all from early childhood inspire her children that they have the cleverest, boldest, most beautiful and talented. We are trying to develop their self-esteem. Children grow up and start their independent life. In some things work: love, friends, work. Others, on the contrary, can not find themselves in life, afraid to meet new people, to look for an interesting high-paying job, believe in love. How to help them if there is such a pill that can make a person self-confident? Psychologists agree on one thing: there is no fear of pills and there is no powder to be confident and self-sufficient. I'm sure you can help! It must do ourselves, the main thing - to want and move in the right direction, without fear to do what is most afraid of. Let's start right now. We will act decisively, without looking back, even if it is very scary.
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Keep a journal

Most of the girls in my childhood kept diaries where they recorded what they saw for themselves the most important. So we wound up a notebook that will help us to cope with uncertainty and indecision. Daily record to all of its successful business, even the most insignificant: Get a delicious soup, visited the dentist. At a time when uncertainty rolls, like an avalanche, take and read my notes - is sure to help. And do not forget to praise yourself for all that whatever you do. Praise always increases their self-esteem.

If during the day you took an unpleasant situation and you could not get out of it with dignity, in a relaxed atmosphere, try to rethink it and beat with a positive ending. For example: you were treated rudely and you suffered this problem for the rest of the day. Stop, take a notebook and write as though behaved in this situation, your confident friend. The next time a similar situation, you will have a kind of blank out of this problem. Gradually, these pieces will be more and more, and then the day will come when you will not need to look at your records, you will learn how to solve the problem immediately.
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Find the positive

Try to find a negative incident its positive side. Lost in the underground gloves - do not blame yourself. Tell me, what have long wanted to buy new ones, but these have gone out of fashion. The hairdresser made too short haircut? Do not worry, the hair grows back quickly.

Since childhood, parents no time telling us that we must learn from the mistakes of others. And we learn from others' positive examples. A colleague talking to the chief, boldly defends his view of the problem - take the pencil.

Learn not to be afraid to ask, ask questions if you do not understand something, have their own opinion. Better once to feel stupid than to suffer this feeling for the rest of life. There is no one who knew all the answers, so almost everyone from time to time falls into a similar situation as you.

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Speak correctly

In order to feel confident, you need to learn how to speak. I mean not only the correctness of your speech, that is, the absence of word-parasites (learn to fill their "silence"), and the use of specific words. The proposal must begin always with the pronoun "I". I want to see, I want to go, I need it ... And do not be amiss use of verbs in the imperative mood. Show me, tell me bring. Your speech should be emotional, so do not hesitate to learn to talk about their feelings clear, without a hint. Do not be afraid to say "no" if you do something you do not want to do or do not like.

A huge role in our lives plays humor. Man is almost impossible to hurt and off balance when he has a sense of humor. As the great Beaumarchais: "If I was not laughing at all, I would cry all the time." So, if you learn to laugh at all the negative manifestations of life, you will feel more confident.

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Drinking appearance

Well, the most important aspect that will undoubtedly increase your self-esteem and confidence in themselves - this is your appearance. Once you have selected a proper haircut, buy a fashionable, well-cut thing that will get you to go look in the mirror and say, "Good-devil! ". Confidence does not take long - you are on the right track. But I want to warn you that none of the beautiful dress will not protect against cad, and for this it is necessary to do all what is said in this article.

In conclusion, a few short tips everyday. Firstly, Pick encouraging slogan. Many ladies can help to choose for themselves the phrase, repeated every day several times. For example, "I can do everything, I will succeed."

And yet - to cease to hesitate and be in the spotlight, we must first learn to get up in the middle of space, and not somewhere on the edge. Then soon you will not only be of interest, but you will become the soul of the company.

Dear girls, when you get rid of the misconceptions about yourself, your life will change. Self-sufficient woman - a confident woman. This should be your men, your children, and especially you yourselves! Self-importance, feeling it is much more important than any ambition.

Confidence - the natural state of man

Contents:

• Not sure - half defeated
• How to gain confidence in themselves?
• How to live a confident person?
• The first steps of revival of confidence
• Change your lifestyle
• Do not wait for the results of its transformation in a minute - patience
• How to live with the experience accumulated, not a natural confidence?

All people on earth are born with a sense of confidence. Kids look at the world with eyes wide open. But at the moment when the child becomes aware of himself as a person, begin to have doubts and confidence begins to melt. Each process takes place on an individual scenario. Be sure no one on earth could not escape this fate.

Another thing is that each person copes with it in different ways. Everything depends on the immediate environment. Someone luckier, someone - less. There are people who do not think about how to gain confidence in themselves.

If you got the idea that you do something wrong, you do something is not enough, you're already on the road to success.
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Not sure - half defeated

Uncertainty is very prevents to live. Thanks to her, my dear, we are sitting on the unloved and the "pull strap", thanks to her tolerate stupid boss, earn a penny instead of a decent wage. Because of insecurity allow more successful colleagues to sit on his neck, tolerate rudeness. You can enumerate a long time. This loosened the nervous system, very often against this background appear serious illnesses.

Uncertainty - the enemy. At the crucial moment, the life of this enemy necessarily showing teeth and if put up with it, you do not get anywhere in life.

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How to gain confidence in themselves?

The main impact of the uncertainty that you strongly want to get rid of it. Most importantly it clear that it is stopping you live.

The second and finish - you begin to act. Do not wait for Monday or the beginning of a new month. Be prepared for the fact that your inner voice will whisper to you, "as if something happens," "Why are you doing this." Do not listen to him. Think about what you are standing on the threshold of an exciting new life where you become stronger, more independent. It will listen to your opinion, will the respect of colleagues. And any problem you will be on the shoulder.

Remember, confidence is still there, it has been in you since birth, and left. Just outside circumstances raised in your uncertainty. It is because of her you have to make an effort to be inconspicuous, humble and too accommodating.

Be confident - quickly and easily. Being uncertain - hard and unnatural.
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How to live a confident person?

Confident man lives in harmony with himself. There is no fear of dealing with people, he is not afraid of tomorrow. He always has his own opinion and he is not afraid to express it. Confident people do not succumb to the difficulties. The man self-confident, life is much richer and more interesting. But even more difficult. After all, sometimes it is necessary to assign the responsibility to address not only their own destiny, but also the fate of their loved ones. In contrast to the insecure person who finds an excuse: "I can not", "I do not know", "I am not competent" and in the same spirit.

If you decide to change your life, you will have to make an effort. Within a month, if you follow all of the recommendations, it will succeed. Then your confidence will be reborn only to grow and harden.
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The first steps of revival of confidence

• Become the most competent expert in his field. After studying all the details and nuances that you feel that you become more confident. To you will contact colleagues for help.
• Work on his demeanor. If you slouch, you buy a suit in which you must keep your back. Work on gaze, gestures, speech. Mirror this time will be your assistant.
• Pay attention to your appearance. If you feel that your physical form is far from perfect, go in for sports. Do not forget to refresh your manicure, if you are a woman. A man must be clean-shaven. Do not forget about the good perfume. Old things - down.
• Choose a role model in your environment. Look closely at the man. Get yourself something on board. Maybe the style of dress, manner of speaking.
• Begin to do good deeds. You will be helpful to get a positive result, it will add confidence. If there is a failure, not to give up. Analyze, make conclusions and actions.
• Determine what it is you need confidence. What is the goal you want to achieve? Put a goal and strive for it.
• Look around and see who is around you. Be more attentive to people. Support colleague, if he needs it.

If you hear that to gain the confidence you need to attend special training sessions, I do not believe. No training will not help you if you do not decide for themselves to get rid of uncertainty. If this decision is ripe, you deal with the problem on their own.

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Change your lifestyle

Forbid yourself to criticize the people, events and yourself. Negative, which breaks out, always turns against man himself.

The thought is material. If you think about the bad, you will be bad. You think about the good - comes good. Enjoy life in all its forms and are giving a positive attitude towards the world all around.

Do not make excuses and do not blame yourself. If you make a mistake, admit it and live on. Do not go back into the past, think about the future. Dooming themselves in guilt, you are destroying your identity. This is the biggest mistake. Tune in to a positive and share positive emotions with others.

Change your surroundings, if formerly accustomed to belittle your dignity. It is important that you are surrounded by self-confident and positive people.

Think about your hobby. Surely you forget, what would like to do. Remember, you may love to paint or to engage in wood carving? Or maybe you've dreamed to learn to play guitar or piano? Doing things you love - it's very useful to raise the self-esteem and gain confidence in themselves.

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Do not wait for the results of its transformation in a minute - patience

Set a small and realistic goals and strive to implement them. Achieving the goal of strengthening confidence, you have an additional incentive to further improve. Listen to your intuition, a feeling rarely deceives.

Dispose of feeling sorry for themselves and others. Do not take to heart the failure of others. If you can help, you help, but do not delve into issues deeply. Protect their resurgent confidence.

Treat with gratitude to all the gifts of fate. And do not forget to do good deeds.

Do not feel ashamed to ask for help from the more experienced, wise man. There's no sign of weakness. The strong man is not afraid to ask, because I am ready to help. Learn to trust the world around you.

Be thankful for the troubles and misfortunes, which she presents to us. After all, overcoming difficulties, you become stronger and your confidence is growing.

Do not forget about your body. It's not the clothes that you can change. A healthy mind could be only in a healthy body.

Any business gets done. Even if you do not feel like it a lot. Gather will in a fist and finish the job. you will feel your self-esteem increases.

The main enemy of confidence - it's fear. Try to make it something that you are afraid. Of course, without undue risk and heroism. With fear to work constantly, and eventually the day will come when you win.

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How to live with the experience accumulated, not a natural confidence?

At first, when you just feel a revived confidence, you will be a little uncomfortable. Be patient, this feeling will soon pass. And you, remembering his former self will wonder: "Was I like that? "

You'll soon get used to his new, become a different attitude to the world and others. Do you have new goals. you will realize that confidence - the natural state of man.

Wishes men: what should be the ideal woman

Contents:

• 9 ways to become the perfect girl
• Is it possible to be perfect for everyone?

Ask any girl, whether she had any idea of ​​how to be a perfect man, and she immediately nadiktuet you an impressive list of qualities that she wanted to see in their representatives. But imagine, men also have your list, and they are also clear about what should be the ideal woman. Therefore, we should not relax, staying in full confidence in its irresistibility. Want to know how you meet the male ideal of women? Then let's get down to studying the parameters that guys dream of seeing in girls.

9 ways to become the perfect girl

"Tell me, my dear, how you treat me? "Or option:" Do you love me? "This is our favorite question. We want everything to sort through, and our relationship - too. But when guys hear these questions each time they frown, roll their eyes, sigh, as if to say, "Lord, again! Let us not now, huh? "It was with you? Just say - you're not the first woman who asks her about this man. And he - not the first guy who responds this way.

But this does not mean that they do not care about your relationship. Men think about them constantly. They talk about us with your friends. But this does not mean that they are seeking just to catalog all that they feel towards us. They do not know how to express their attitude words. They just do not know what to answer our questions. They do not understand why we doubt (as - by their logic - to be out of our problem) in their love for us. They, unlike us, do not "love the ears", and therefore baffles our desire to again and again hear the words of love.

Of course, they always go to meet us if they understand what we want from them. But we need to know what they expect from us. And they are willing to share their expectations. So, once psychologists have interviewed quite a large group of men, asking about what they would like to see their women. Answers are given anonymously, so we were particularly frank. Get the "cheat sheet" that will help you fulfill your dream guy. According to the man!

"Laugh often, and that you will conquer us! "

Only twelve percent of men believe that a woman's appearance is more important than her sense of humor, intelligence and gentle disposition. A vote for this "trio" of more than seventy-five percent of boys! And a sense of humor - the most important quality, they say. On of laughing or smiling Woman easier to pay attention than gloomy or too serious. And laughter serves as a sort of "mental matchmaker": laughing girl - so she likes me. In addition, laughter - a sign of intellectual compatibility.

Actually humor performs three functions. Firstly, it helps to relieve awkward situation. Second, it defines a community of interests, "You, too, love this cool comedy? "And most importantly, it brings people together. For a smiling girl is not afraid to go, it starts to get angry and literally showering you with his contempt. Boys, too, is quite vulnerable, they are afraid of being laughed at first the girl and then friends.

So take note of this and go for it, raise their sense of humor up a notch. Use laughter wisely (as paradoxical as it may sound)!

"Support when we were overtaken by a failure"

Men want to see next to a partner, not an educator. More than sixty-seven percent of men want to ask us to put an end to this "Mamochkin efforts of" when we fix our collar they are not allowed to ruffle your hair, straighten out when they say "I put" not "I put on." They expect us to very different care!

The guy wants to close was a girl who will always take his side and will support it. Then it is easier to admit that they can not determine the decision, and that they are ready to accept our help if a certain situation or event is too depressing them. In other words, they expect us to help them to correct the situation when there are some problems, but not engaged in their education and to correct deficiencies of character.

Bring him hot broth to bed when he gets sick, to cheer him up and make believe in themselves when he was working on a complex project, help him to feel safe when there is a problem - and then your guy always wants you to be close with him! And if you begin to control and take care of, like a mother hen, it will soon run away from you.

"Respect our friends"

You are smart enough to not be jealous of the guy to his friends? It is very good! Very often, women require guys stopped all relations with all of his friends and spent all his spare time exclusively to them. Anyway, it said eighty-three percent of the men surveyed! Now imagine if the guys have demanded the same from us. Could we stop to chat with their friends, classmates, former classmates, siblings, and so on? Would we throw lesson shaping or oriental dance, ceased to go to courses embroidery ribbons? Hardly! So why do we demand it from others?

I must say that the girl in love for some time, ready to dive into his life with his head, forgetting even about girlfriends. But the guys are arranged differently. They are very important to maintain relationships with their friends. And it is very important that we are not just tolerant of their friends. They need us to respect their friends. So, wrap into their heads that we do not have to love the guy friends, but we have to respect their friendship.

"Consider our mood"

Men are not immune to mood swings, they just hide it better. When it seems that the guy responds to somehow wrong, as usual, it is not worth it immediately offended, turn away, sulking, ostentatiously wiping tears. This, by the way, only more will bring him out of himself, if he is not in the spirit. Better to just say, "You look upset, and not the same as always. What happened? "If he starts to pour out his soul to you, listen to it carefully. Just do not be tempted to enter into a dialogue with it. In most cases, the guy you need to simply listen and given the opportunity to speak out.

Guys want us to be empathetic, but not intrusive. For them, the possibility of simply talk about their problems most often enough, they do not expect that we will try to solve them. And even more so in any case can not afford to statements like, "I told you so! "Or" I knew it would happen that way! "Otherwise you'll never live to see the revelation of her boyfriend.

If you are unable to support the guy, he will tell you about the problem, try it just to distract from it. Thirty-two percent of men admitted that they expect help from us to forget, for example, about a quarrel with a friend or a beating that gave the boss. How to do it? Offer him cook dinner together, or watch a good movie. The more attention it will give some work together with you, the less he will think about an unpleasant incident. And there emotions slowly subside.

"We also want to hear compliments! "

Guys love that we love them, muscular body. But they are very hopeful that this is not all, for what we love them. Every guy wants to hear that, no matter what it looks like, there is something deeper that we find in them sexually, whether it is the way he tells a story, or how it touches you when meeting . They want to know and hear that we consider them intelligent, courageous, fearless ...

Only eight per cent of men said they would like to hear compliments their physical qualities; and sixty-six percent want us to talk about other qualities that they clearly possess. So do not skimp on the praise! Be with the sincere and specific: "I like the feeling of security that I get when you're near me," "You are so smart! I think there is a book that you could not read. " And every day, tell him what he is extraordinary. You get a great bonus: he never wants to lose such a unique girl who sees so much appreciates all its advantages!

"Do not be afraid to show your love"

Ninety-seven percent of men are unanimous in their desire to have a girl who is ready to show them your love, even in public. Of course, this does not mean that a girl should be, for example, publicly "passionately" kissed. But! Extremely attractive guys think a woman who quite confident in their sexuality, to always "warm" fantasy satellite light kiss while walking or resting in the car hand on his knee, yes, even "fire" in a hot look across the table while at a dinner party with friends.

We often go on about the long-established traditions that dictate that girls should be modest, must not allow ourselves anything extra. Who would argue! By promiscuity and today nobody is going to call upon, and modesty can decorate and modern girl. But today, while yet very different, and our men expect us to sexuality. And each of them (at least, admit it to ninety-seven percent!) Would not give to another girl who knows how to make his blood boil!

"It really gets us! "

If we are really talking about sexuality, let us know the most secret desires of guys who deal with intimate relationships. How can we get the guy admiration recognize you the best? Looking for something new - for example, new positions for sex - it is certainly good. Various experiments with toys and all kinds of lotions and lubricants can also be fun, or at least interesting. But what causes the admiration of men now, so this is our unbridled enthusiasm during sex.

Perhaps that is why eighty percent of men said that the girl who "just is", without causing them any desire to continue close contact with her. A fifty-seven percent of boys said they had not been published in time sex girl and no sound at all "sexy nerd!" In fact, your unrestrained passion can help the guy to feel a lot closer to you emotionally, more than a third of men called the most important part of the unforgettable sex.

"Respect our feelings"

"We are jealous" - say the guys. "And we have to admit it. We hate that his line, but we really do not like it when you crossed the line of what is permitted. " At the same time men are not hypocrites. They understand that there is treason, and there is also a simple flirtation. Seventy-nine percent of them do not mind if it ends just flirting. But they strongly object when it comes to exchanging phone numbers or even caresses and kisses.

In general, the guy even flattered if she attracts the attention of other men. "Oh, it is really interesting and attractive! "- He told. So the guy usually does not mind if she talks to other men. But only under one condition - if it will not behave overtly seductive.

Learn how to keep a man's environment, if you want to become the perfect girl. Visiting the company together with her boyfriend, do not be afraid to joke with the other guys, smile at them, and even to dance in an embrace. But it keeps between himself and the other guys invisible distance, which can be cross only one person out of all who are there. And always keep eye contact with her boyfriend.

"Your ambition - the best aphrodisiac! "

There is nothing sexier than a successful woman. Eighty percent of men say that they are simply one gets the idea to inspire a woman who seeks to make a career. But if you learn in high school or have begun to professional growth, it will be very difficult to synchronize your free time. Try at least one day a week to devote to your relationship. And when you spend romantic hours alone, direct to your conversations away from problems at work or university. Your guy wants to feel that your relationship is a priority for you when you are together.

And one more thing. If you earn a lot more money than he does, it's very cool, and it will respect you for it. But just do not advertise the difference in your earnings! Men always seek to dominate, and your income will serve as a good incentive for him to advance at work. But if every time you will emphasize its financial insolvency (compared to you), then it is very much will sting your guy. Then do not be surprised if one day he will leave you.

Is it possible to be perfect for everyone?

As you can see, not only we have our own ideas about the ideal partner - men too are no exception. Of course, it is very useful to learn about their preferences and try to make them fit. But you must not forget that the concept of an "ideal" - a matter of taste. Your idea of ​​the perfect can be radically different from the representations about it from other people. Thus, you should try to be perfect, but only as it seems right to you, not the way you talk about it by someone else.

Be yourself! Never changes because of pressure on you to other people. If one of the guys starts to criticize you, just ask yourself the question: "Do I trust this person? Should I listen to his advice? "If you answer yourself these questions" yes ", then proceed, taking into account the measures voiced criticism. And if you answer "no", then simply shake off the criticism sounded. Most likely, he was just jealous of you, that's trying to confuse you!

Finally, never changes for the sake of his friend, if you do not think that something in you is wrong. If a guy does not appreciate you for who you really are, he will never love you truly. He always finds something to complain about. Then just keep your eyes open so as not to overlook the very thing of beauty and a single guy who will take you to the most perfect girl in the world!

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The ideal woman through the eyes of men: make up a collective portrait

Contents:

• Ten basic qualities that attract men
• What should be the ideal woman in marriage

We are surrounded by so many men, and each of them usually has its own idea of ​​what should be real women, and that he generally like them. Each of the guys a hundred percent sure that his opinion - the most correct, and moreover, it is not subject to appeal! But the real question is whether it is possible to select a particular type of woman that men prefer more than others? And what attracts guys? In other words - what is it, the ideal woman through the eyes of men?

Ten basic qualities that attract men

There are certain characteristics of the appearance of the women who are able to attract the attention of boys. Let's see what kind of features:

1. Hair Color Women

   Somehow, it is believed that the guys prefer blondes. It is very doubtful! Generally, the color of the hair of women is not a determining factor. The fact that there are other features of her personality that are more important and are really able to attract most of the men. But if we speak about the hair, then - you will be surprised! - Most men are attracted to brunettes.

2. External prettiness

   Of course, it's no secret that men love with their eyes, and above all they value a woman is on the external parameters. Slim, long legs, breast size, expressive eyes - all of this is subject to instantaneous evaluation. I must say that most men do not pass indifferently by the blue-eyed stroynyashkoy with magnificent breasts and long legs ...

3. The harmonious appearance and sense of style

   It is not necessary to have all the above parameters to interest the guy. Men like it when a woman looks neat, and all the elements of her clothes in harmony with each other. Clothes should not be too flashy or expensive, but it is important that it was you. And let us think that men do not understand anything in fashion or style of clothing; but if you look is stylish, it certainly seems interesting to any guy.

4. What smells like a woman

   The smell is very important. No man comes to the delight when a woman feels the smell of sweat. Perfume with a pungent odor is also unlikely to cause his interest in you. But a gentle trail of subtle flavor is able to make a man fall into a trance!

5. Independence

   A woman who wants to attract the attention of men, should create around himself an aura of success and satisfaction with their lives and careers. Guys do not like ladies who constantly complain about life and endless tales about the vicissitudes of his destiny trying to squeeze out a tear of pity interlocutor. A positive attitude to life in a woman attracts a lot of men, and if it is also a fascinating and has a smile that reveals her white teeth, it finally won the heart of any guy. Smiling optimist any man would call his ideal.

6. The woman's body

   The man is hardly interested in an unfamiliar woman who has insufficient or overweight. Unfortunately this is the case. In the view of man a woman's body should look harmonious. So he always like to admire a woman who takes care of its shape and takes care of the body.

7. Makeup

   Guys do not like when a woman uses too much makeup, but also completely without makeup it will not seem to him attractive. We just have to find a middle ground and apply make-up as much as it is necessary to hide flaws and highlight your most attractive features.

8. Zest

   It is no less important for women than good looks. It should have a peculiar, subtle appeal, charm which belongs only to her. This could cause an interest in it, because a woman is hard not to notice.

9. Features of its identity

   The nature of women is also very important for men. Men do not like envious and evil women who never fail to wash up bones around as soon as they will have the slightest opportunity. Men also do not like it when a woman talks too loud and shrill voice. Most guys will never be treated with interest and respect for a woman who swears or uses obscene words. The eyes of men the perfect woman will always be the one that is always friendly, kind, gentle and feminine. And - must be able to maintain a conversation. Contrary to popular belief, men do not like glupyshek.

10. Understanding

    Oh, it's one of the main qualities that we look for in a man! Be the eyes of men the ideal woman is always humble and understand them with their chores and hobbies: cars, passion for sports, work or other things. Men like gentle and caring women, who can be relied upon, by any chance something will develop not as we would like.

What men do not like us? They do not like it when we become selfish spenders tend to idleness, and when we are too indifferent to it or, on the contrary, constantly climb with tenderness and syusyukanem. Woman, believe men should have self-esteem. And still it is from time to time to get a little inaccessible, otherwise you can lose all its appeal to the stronger sex. And yet - the guys like women with a good sense of humor.

The list goes on and on. It turns out that to be the ideal woman is not so easy but you have to do everything possible to its cultivation, to as close as possible to the masculine ideal.

What should be the ideal woman in marriage

As you know, so far we have talked about the attractiveness of strangers or unfamiliar guys women. And if a man and woman living together - which, in the opinion of the partner should be an ideal life partner? If we asked them about this, here's a list of them to us are as follows:

1. It must help men look good

   The realities of modern life is that today man has to look perfect. The better it looks, the more successful it seems to others. But to maintain the image of their own men have not yet learned. And because they believe that women are well versed in fashion and cosmetics, that they expect from us that we will have to help them look younger, healthier and more stylish. Women need to help them to choose a good quality cream or a shirt, and buy them Mighty leather wallet, and not another dress for myself. As it turns out, men appreciate these women, and in turn, they are always ready to substitute his shoulder when the need of a purely male help.

2. We should not forget about his personal life

   When a woman is completely immersed in family chores and taking care of her husband and children, she very quickly ceases to seem to him an interesting person. Today, it is the same as yesterday, a month or a year ago. A man gets bored with it, and my wife is losing its sex appeal in his eyes. A man wants a woman to constantly fueled his interest, and this should be constantly changing, constantly in a state of progress. And they do not mind that the wife had her own personal life.

   In this case, personal life has a broad meaning which includes friends, family, fitness, various interest clubs and so on. In short, personal life - it's what gives us the ability to communicate outside the family and get some new experiences and emotions.

3. It should be feminine and to be modest

   Men argue that modern women are not always able to see the difference between femininity and modesty, firstly, between femininity and debauchery second. That is why, according to our husbands, we look either too constrained and restrained, which makes us quite uninteresting, or, conversely, begin to dress and behave quite neprilichno.Chto regard to the latter, the men do not like excesses, we often allow ourselves.

   Bare bellies, too low set jeans pile of rings, earrings and visyulek here and there, make-up, like a clown's make-or war paint African tribes, shapeless baggy clothes or, conversely, too tight tight places, that would be better not to emphasize - too many errors, we assume! Much more like our guys, when we skillfully hide their extra folds and emphasize the attractive curves, and excess paint and trinkets not detract from the true appeal of its features.

4. Best woman the one that was able to stop the pressure on her man

   Perhaps, one hundred and ninety men are willing to say that their women are constantly "press" them. Speaking of which, they mean endless reminders about what they should do, and then demanding a full report on the implementation requirements. Yet they are very annoying when we constantly require them to regular calls and SMS messages. We want to keep the men under constant supervision and control, and it is very much their angers. And if they do not comply with our demands, it is not because they forget about it. The thing is that they do not consider it important.

Of course, if you take into account all these factors, of which we could tell our men, you are still unlikely to become an ideal for men. It's only the most common features, and every man is still there and his personal idea of ​​the perfect woman. And if he once chose you, so you personalize it for him ideal. But do not get complacent and rest on its laurels! Unfortunately, too often the words "I'm tired of you! "Become an integral part of the active vocabulary of our men. Think, perhaps you should reconsider your lifestyle and attitude to the man you love? To permanently stay for a woman dreams of his ideal woman.

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How to develop femininity and charm

Contents:

• Femininity and appearance
• Femininity and demeanor
• The qualities that men seem particularly feminine

Each of us wants not just to be a woman - just because we have the appropriate signs sex - but still be present representatives of the beautiful half of the human race, to which would have attracted the eyes of all the surrounding men. I would like something desirable, but how to develop femininity, which is a necessary condition of female attractiveness, we do not always know.

Femininity has many different definitions. Every woman can have its own way to be attractive and charming, and each of these methods has the same force of impact on others. It is not necessary to be a sort of doll hair, dressed all in pink to appear feminine. You can be in life and a tomboy, and has forgotten about himself, to give all the attention and care to others woman, and it does not lose its appeal.

Nevertheless, in a society where the media are promoting a particular type of femininity, many of us have to make some effort to achieve this ideal. So why is it that a worthwhile endeavor?

Femininity and appearance

Something to hide - of course, the appearance of a woman is the first criterion to assess the surrounding. Here's what you can do to learn to express their femininity with the help of appearance:

• As often as possible to spend time with her friends

  Communicating with different women, you may notice different "versions" of female attractiveness. Observation of the various models of femininity to help you find new ways to self-image, and you will be much more comfortable to express and emphasize their belonging to the beautiful half of humanity.

• Spend enough of time trying to learn and itself

  Yes, yes, do not be surprised! Each of us has a special features and qualities that make our unique attraction; but in the bustle of everyday life we ​​drive a beautiful stranger in the farthest corner of the soul and secret. Take time to do what you really like to do, hone their talents or interests that have so far been lack of demand due to a lack of time. Learn how to pamper and love yourself, and it will help you feel more comfortable in his own body. But in the end you will be much easier to express their femininity.

• The work on their appearance, start with a trip to the hairdresser

  Color your hair or make a fashionable haircut. This change in appearance will change your self-image and will break old patterns of behavior. Seeing his reflection in a mirror image of the updated, you will feel the rush of sensations own appeal, and it will help you to become more feminine.

• Experiment with makeup

  Just do not overdo it with bright colors - as close as possible to their natural makeup is the most delicate and feminine. To make any changes, try different shades of gloss and lipstick. It would be good at least once to use the services of professional make-up artist - so you could see how you can accentuate the best features of your appearance. And another tip: try to buy only high-quality cosmetics, which is well applied and does not harm your skin.

• Take time for a quality and professional care for themselves

  Keep your eyebrows neat, do not let them become overgrown. Remove the hair on the face and legs, if you have them. Do not allow yourself to go with stale or unkempt hair. Always on time do not neglect manicures and pedicures.

• If you want to look more feminine, we can not reconsider your wardrobe

  Replace fashionable elegant slippers are comfortable and cute shoes your heart. A baggy T-shirts, which are more suitable for men, replace light or pastel shades blouses. Wear those clothes, which will decorate and favorably emphasize your figure. If you emphasize their purely feminine curves and roundness, and not to hide them under the featureless clothing unisex, then you give her femininity opportunity to develop very active.

• Be sure to add your image such detail as accessories - earrings, bracelets, necklaces, bags, key chains ...

  Even when you are wearing jeans and a T-shirt! Only, of course, comply with the measure and maintained the selected style.

• Be sure to take care of the health of the body: eat well and exercise regularly

  Having a body with which you feel comfortable, you will not hide their femininity.

• Watch your posture

  Keep your back straight, lower your chin on chest and make sure that your gait was graceful gait legkoy.O and would like to talk in more detail. You certainly remember Vera-secretary from the movie "Office Romance". It very accurately described the importance of graceful gait of female attractiveness. Owning your body is very important; and even if you are wearing a very nice dress and do her hair and make-up just on the highest level - it does not help you too, if you go as Lyudmila Prokofievna "skukozhilas whole, like an old ragged shoe, and - scratching work !!! "

Woman has to move quite differently. Showing attention to how to develop the feminine, you have to learn how to move. After a little practice you will be able to work out the "right" gait, and she quickly becomes the only acceptable for you.

Femininity and demeanor

In order to develop their femininity, you must understand that it has to come from within you. You can dress up and stay as dictates our female nature, but this is not enough. Put just a man, and will be seen per kilometer that it was a man. Why is that? Because the guy can not be faked purely feminine demeanor. We must recognize that in terms of psychology, and in terms of culture, women tend to possess unique characteristics different from those of men. Understanding this difference and help you develop your feminine nature.

Try to emphasize those physical and emotional qualities that distinguish you from the men. This does not necessarily mean that you have to dress provocatively, or vice versa, and to be constantly embarrassed shyness. Show your sensitivity, caring, empathy. As a rule, femininity is associated with kindness, compassion and desire to help others.

Pay attention to your manners, speech, and ways of interacting with people. Try to be more receptive and passive than active and aggressive. This does not mean that you can not express their opinions in dispute; just choose the way how you can speak more gently and tactfully any problem. And as often as possible smile. Ensure the correctness of his speech and refrain from using vulgar words or profanity - that will never allow myself a real woman!

Be natural in their behavior. There is nothing more beautiful and feminine than a girl who feels confident and calm. Do things that make you feel beautiful and happy. Listen to good joyful music that is uplifting. Read or dream in the park or in your garden, surrounded by beautiful flowers. Arrange gatherings with friends in a cafe or in the good candy. Let the will of their positive feelings and emotions. Agree, it is inherent in women easy and joyful perception of reality - here and learn to enjoy every little thing!

Do not forget to be weak and in need of care: men really like to act as defenders. Let a man opens the door in front of you or pushes a chair. Let it offers to help, and you accept it. If you are used to do many things for yourself, then call your next time your boyfriend or husband when you have to do something very feminine - for example, to move a sofa or hang on the wall with a photo frame.

No wonder they say that the power of a woman - in her weakness. It helps to be feminine is much better than the manipulative actions with the help of his sexuality. Allowing a man to help and giving him the opportunity to make you happy, you are sending a message that you are worthy of love, admiration and protection just because you - a real woman, able to assess the merits of his men. This is the most important sign of femininity!

The qualities that men seem particularly feminine

Many women mistakenly believe that the appearance of beautiful women is the most important value for men. But the man primarily evaluates a woman on her personal qualities, when it comes to a serious relationship. What guys like? First of all - love and tenderness. Of course, men are very much focused on the physical pleasure of sex, but it does not mean that they do not seek and do not want love. A woman who pays too much attention to the sexual act, but it does not show affection, they will be considered nothing more than a sexual partner.

And the affection and love should be manifested not only in the bedroom. Tap gently hand man when you sit at a table facing each other. Give him a warm embrace. Correct overhangs his eyes or hair clean eyelash that fell on his cheek. Men really like is unobtrusive attention and expression of warmth and love!

Very popular with men and cheerful girl with a good sense of humor. If you do not take yourself or life too seriously and you know how to laugh at trouble, you guys are always attracted to you. And men love the playful women who like to fool around, regardless of their age. Young souls is a very attractive trait, and goes hand in hand with a sense of humor and the ability to have fun.

We could tell you about the other qualities that would be reasonable to cultivate to become more attractive. No because the limit! But of what you just read, it is enough to understand how to develop your femininity. Major landmarks on the road to improvement we showed you; and only now depends on you, how charming, attractive and feminine, you can be!

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The ideal woman: myth or reality?

Contents:

• Attention! Urgent track down the ideal
• That never happens at the perfect girl
• The main secret

According to some beautiful women, all men are equal and women from want "just one." What exactly is meant by this, the majority of readers, as we assume, can easily guess yourself. But in fact, all is not so simple and trite. Men are just as fiercely want to meet his princess, his ideal woman as the fairer pola- find her prince, a real man and the dream of their lives.

The ideal girl ... What it represents the opinion of the representatives of a strong half of humanity, what qualities distinguish it from all the other ladies and men make heart beat more often at one of its kind? After all, to be perfect in the eyes of the elect - a dream of 99, 9% of women at least. We hasten to reassure you, our dear readers, and to announce that the reason is not to panic. Ideals, preferences and views each individual, regardless of gender, age, education and political views may be antithetical, which gives us all a huge choice in finding the most suitable candidate to mate.

Of course, a collective image, a general idea of ​​what it should be, the ideal woman, laid in the very nature of men. Woman and man created it in such a way as to complement each other, not to be the likeness of one another. Therefore, women love men in courage, and by men appreciate our femininity in all its forms. In this article we will try as much as possible to tell you more about that to be the perfect woman for any man is not the most difficult, and even very pleasant.

Attention! Urgent track down the ideal

So, what qualities must have a woman that guys saw it as their ideal?

Physical attractiveness

Remember that most men perceive visual information. Saying that they like eyes appeared out of nowhere. It is not a hair or eye color, yet it is more a matter of personal preferences of individual men: some prefer blond curls, some juicy red curls, and someone is going crazy from the head of hair raven. Someone like miniature as figurine, girls, and someone will be delighted by the delicious as bun, ladies. But the ideal of women united by their personal confidence in their own external irresistibility that arose, of course, not in a vacuum.

Perfect girl always manages to find time for fitness to be in good shape. Sports activities for a girl the same usual thing, like washing hands or taking a shower, that is a perfectly natural state of things. They always give yourself time to do manicures and pedicures, pamper your skin and hair, choose makeup that can emphasize its individuality. True, we should not go too far - a beautiful wrapper without filling can only briefly to conquer a man's attention, and then he had to attend to further their search for perfection, which is equally beautiful on the inside and outside.

Sexiness

According to the majority of men, a woman who knows how to enjoy sex worthy of boundless love and admiration. Of course, the quality of the estimate is not everyone met on your path of life man, but for that one, whose ideal you strive to be, it will be important to know what you enjoy, sharing with him the bed of love. Few of the opposite sex attracts sandwiched, notorious lady, for whom sex is more encumbrance or obligation. But the desire to express themselves in sex sensual and passionate woman will be appreciated by a loving partner.

The ability to flirt, be moderately coquettish, again and again to be able to seduce a man of their own - all this creates an aura around the sexuality of women, attracting her man's attention and interest. The main thing, as always, to avoid excesses: plaque of vulgarity or immorality are more likely to push a man, or cause him concern only certain kinds.

Economic

Men still mesmerizing ability to cook something delicious, to create comfort in the house and keep it clean. Develop a love for cooking - and you will not rebound in admirers, one of whom will take all possible steps to be able to achieve your favor. As for comfort and accuracy, and we own nice to come back to a place that we do not only formally can call home. That's just as well for men - it will always be more to pull the house, where it is waiting for a charming hostess who made sure to feed your man tasty concoction will provide him rest and availability of fresh shirts in the morning, when he hurries to work.

Anyone familiar funny phrase that perfect girl can make out of nothing three things: to cook food, to create a beautiful hairstyle and make a huge scandal. As for the latter skills, we recommend yet to be restrained and express emotions more constructively, but the ability, even in a tight economy to create a culinary masterpiece and make sure that all pets were fed, deserves great admiration of the strong half of humanity.

The mind

Do not take it literally. Few of the men as a confirmation of your mental faculties require him to produce several higher education diplomas, the Nobel Prize or some other conceivable and inconceivable awards and medals. The perfect girl mind appears slightly different ways. In it lives a constant thirst for self-development and it is interesting to talk, discuss and learn something new. At the same time be smarter and better educated than their immediate partner is not required. Well, or you can cleverly conceal this, which is also a clear sign of the presence of considerable intelligence, coupled with tact.

Ideal for real women refuse to stay in place, rest on our laurels. They set themselves new goals, seeking new knowledge, develop themselves and involuntarily attracted to that their men. Thus there is no competition between the partners, there is no place rivalry; Conversely, communicating with each other, they get mutual pleasure from this, there is an exchange of information, knowledge and opinions. Many men say that the manifestation of the mind in their favorite lady adds that a lot of points in its favor.

Fidelity

The man wants to be sure the woman in himself. Perfect girl does not even come up with the idea of ​​treason their guys, this is a categorical condition in which men are unanimous. It relates to the most physical side of things, but also emotional loyalty and devotion to the representatives of the stronger sex to the lady of his heart is welcome, too.

Agree, the ideal woman is unlikely to be subjected to the dignity of his chosen test, commenting on the correctness of his actions and thoughts, and it does not matter, it happens alone or in front of witnesses. Even if it has a point of view somewhat at odds with his opinion, she was always able to show loyalty to her man. In the end, what difference who you are right? Diplomacy in the relationship is more valuable than the ability to insist on his own.

Positivity

What girl is more likely to get the title of the ideal - one that always frowns, upset, even over trifles and always expect bad news and the news, or the one that is always set to a positive, is reason to rejoice even nothing, and her smile lights up, it seems all the space next to it? The answer is obvious, is not it? Too often, women prefer to be sad about, and without it, although common sense suggests doing the opposite. After all, men prefer not blondes and women with any hair color, which are able to experience life in a positive way and to paint it in a rainbow of colors.

Perfect girl realizes that while she is complaining about the life that passes by, and therefore need to learn to see the good and enjoying every moment and event. Especially since the majority of men believe that the need to safeguard and protect delicate floors of all kinds of trouble, but when it turns out that the troubles surrounding us from all sides, all confused, not knowing which of the bottom of the first to defend.

Credibility

Men want to be the girl with whom they are in a relationship, trust them and rely on similar actions. Jealousy is able to discourage any man, even the love. If you are constantly looking for proof of his infidelity, his jealous, arrange debriefing, be sure of understanding on his part you will not meet. According to the unanimous opinion of women, the ideal and desirable woman of such behavior should not allow themselves. After all, a man tired excuses to explain and clarify the relationship to engage, and eventually he will go look for the girl more fit into his idea of ​​the ideal.

The converse is also true - the ideal girl would not feel the strength of the confidence of his men, provoking him by his actions fit of jealousy. She cares for his heartfelt feelings and self-esteem. She did not need proof of love, obtained in this way. She knows how to appreciate the trust that she has her man, and will not feel its strength, they allow themselves to do some short-sighted and unreasonable young lady.

Wisdom

We tend to think that this quality only comes to us over the years. Believe me, this is not always the case. In fact, many women have it fully into an early age. The men met in the presence of this young lady invaluable benefits immediately recognize that this girl - the true ideal.

Wisdom is given to a woman by nature, just someone starts to use these gifts later, and someone before. What is more obvious it is the perfect girl? For example, in the fact that these women understand the value of their relationship with a partner able to bypass acute angles in different situations, and most importantly, unobtrusive teach his companion. Begin to develop a female wisdom as soon as possible, to the rank of ideal girl was given to you with another youth.

Weakness

All the girls remember that the strength of a woman in her weakness? The girl who allows himself to be naturally weak, defenseless, in the eyes of men is the real ideal, next to which it can actually feel the defense and lifeguard earner. What man would willingly give up these titles, which for centuries embedded in the very nature of it? In today's world, women are too often forgotten that such qualities in men awaken the desire to protect and nurture the owner of these virtues. After all, this is how we treat our ideals.

Some girls replace one concept to another, and instead of a sweet show of weakness and insecurity in front of men full infantilism, inertia and apathy. As reality shows, men react to such behavior is frowned upon. After all, they want to see next to a still adult personality, ability to make decisions and take responsibility for their actions, not the child, who must be a parent.

Inscrutability

Men recognize that girl that pretend to be perfect, there must be some mystery. We are talking about a special charm, the woman seems to be open to you in full, and at the same time seemed to elude men, always leaving room for a tiny fraction of the secrets of a small stroke of understatement. The charm of these ladies affects men just the most wonderful way, how is the real magic potion. Therefore, every woman, to come closer to the ideal, should learn to respect the delicate balance between openness and light veil of mystery.

Parenting

A girl who knows how to behave in society, educated and cultured, is admired not only in the eyes of men. Good manners will always find approval, especially in older people. The great thing that this quality can not be congenital, but it is so easy to create yourself! Everything is in our hands, most importantly - set yourself the task and start acting.

Kindness

This is probably the simplest thing can be the perfect girl. It should be good to people, to the world, to himself. As it is estimated men? It is very simple: they listen, as we spoke of others, how to talk, communicate what we're doing and why. Remember that kindness manifests itself above all in the small details: Are you ready to feed a stray dog, visit an elderly relative, take products ailing friend. It is because of such trifles man is inside your complete image of that one day, perhaps even unbeknownst to himself, he begins to consider ideal.

That never happens at the perfect girl

We have mentioned the most important quality for a girl character, under which most people consider you self perfection. But there are things that are not compatible with the concept of what should be an ideal girl. We are sure that you have no such features, and mention them except for the fact that you have an idea about them:

• Envy

It is inconceivable that a girl is a real ideal, could feel for someone jealous.

• Rudeness

This concept does not much fit into the concept of femininity, let alone the ideality in general it is not conducted.

• Greed

If everything in the girl said that her priority is just getting material goods, and the soul - minor matters, the ideal of its very few people want to call it.

• Arrogance

Men avoid contact with women who suffer from this disease, and evade these girls party. However, we believe that to you it has nothing to do.

• Manipulation

Women by nature more subtle psychologists, than men. But if it occurs to use such powers for their own purposes, or to anything good will not result in similar behavior. The man eventually would guess that they skillfully manipulated, and you will cease to be considered not only an ideal, but a decent girl.

• Vindictiveness

Only in books but the movies men love bitchy ladies, but in real life the situation is quite the opposite: like hell repels them. In their mind the image of the ideal woman is simply not compatible with the image of a formidable mstitelnitsy, which at any moment could bring down upon them a righteous sword to teach a lesson of some sort (sometimes even minor) mistake.

• Unpredictable

Even despite the fact that men welcome women into the mystery, they clearly understand that, according to his idea of ​​the ideal, the girl can expect. It does not behave in a strange way to put it to a standstill by his behavior, and thereby put himself in an awkward or embarrassing position.

The main secret

I'd love to read this article helped each of our readers to understand one important thing: you and that there is a real ideal girl, you just have to realize it, to believe and accept. With one caveat: the ideal - the value of a generalized and quite small achievable, but it is necessary to seek all his life, although initially each of us is beautiful with its uniqueness and individuality. Develop a need, as you are well aware, but according to his personality and not against it. It is better to know yourself, do not be afraid to look into his heart, to analyze their thoughts and feelings to decide what character trait needs to be developed. But this should be done only for their own sake, for the sake of his personality, and not for someone else.

Men seeking women and love, which combine features of a lover, the Queen, the mistress and the little girl. It is about the female representative of the tribe, which is able to maintain a balance of all these components, they readily say that it is precisely the real ideal woman. But there is one secret that we will discover. If a man fell in love with you, then, in his eyes, you are perfection itself, everything about you is perfect for him and change nothing. It should only afford to stay the same as in the very first minute of your relationship. It is many years allow you to keep in his heart the love and confidence in his choice he was not mistaken.