We know how to be confident and raise self-esteem!

What is confident woman? Straightened his shoulders slightly proud posture, confident step in a soft gait, smooth, pretty hard and piercing eyes .... Looking at her on the street, you hear the melody of Elvis Presley, and it seems that it is ideal. The men watched the such persons. She loves sport, and always knows what he wants. Here lies the most-most. It is important to choose and at the same time to know what you want. Do you want to become self-confident, successful and modern women. Close your eyes right now and imagine yourself be what you would like to be!

Who do you see: Angelina Jolie, Angela Merkel, Uma Thurman, Nicole Kidman? You can, of course, be a copy of one of them, of their idols. You can even decide to take a desperate step and go to a plastic surgeon, but you need to understand that you get from a clone. Men who will be on hand for the appearance not see your soul, and it is so important.

Yes, and the owner of the "star" of external data you must have an original character. Let's try again present, but now itself. We have to see it yourself and those qualities, which we did not have enough in life, raising self-esteem. What you want to be? Such yourself and imagine: a confident, strong and sensual at the same time, capable of decisive action, but ready to compromise.

How to develop confidence and self-esteem improve

Psychologists say that uncertainty may arise in humans in early childhood, but may appear in quite conscious age, usually from the ridiculous phrases minor offenses and the like. You can delve into the reading of Freud, Ebbinghaus, Aristotle, you can use the professional help of a psychologist, but you can just send all to hell and become self-confident. How to raise self-esteem? Prompt, to learn, to make!

The first weapon confident person - a smile! Yes, yes, the usual smile - is a powerful weapon, the right of ownership which opens up new horizons. This does not mean that you need to escape to a nearby dental clinic and create a perfect smile. Look at the six-month babies have only two tooth, as a rule, but how much charm! .. The secret is simple - just a sincere smile. Conclusion: always smiling nadoiskrenne, even if you have only two teeth!

Those psychologists after some of the experiments have concluded that women who are wearing sexy underwear, confident no matter what you are wearing on top. So you need to buy the most daring, sexy, candid underwear, and always set. If you have a stunning French lace bra and panties in Cheburashka is not surprising that the feeling will be, like Cheburashka in lace, with a corresponding self-esteem. How could it be otherwise ?!

Generally, there are a few rules to be followed by absolutely all women:

• We do not wear a "bag" with a hole for the head

If you put on top of free cutting, the bottom has to be a tight fitting. If the shirt tight to the body, the bottom can afford flared. Welcomed slightly bared shoulders, because we have an amazing underwear and nothing bad will happen, if the fragment is visible, but the smallest. If you can not even teach yourself to combine things in current trends, should not give up and overwhelm the cabinet shapeless things classic black. Look in the mirror. What color are your eyes? Choose tops, dresses and blouses all shades of that color, and be sure it will suit you. Pay attention to the appearance of celebrities outside the red carpet. Or, as the protagonists dressed in romantic movies, a figure that is similar to yours, and then just get the same clothes in stores.

Often, owner of magnificent forms can not afford to retreat from the classics of the far-fetched reasons, but simply to say - because of low self-esteem. Yes, it is far-fetched! Whoopi Goldberg has, in your opinion, an ideal figure? But the lack of "magazine" form did not stop her from becoming the stunning actress with infinite charm and millions of fans! Anfisa Chekhov, too far from 90h60h90, but there is a man who walked past it did not turn out. Stunning, sexy, confident and cute at the same time, how can it miss? You can transfer these stories endlessly, but when reading these lines, you absorb a third giant sandwich, then it is a problem.

• Eat right, beautiful, tasty

"You are what you eat! "- A very accurate description of the man's inner world. You ever seen a slender, beautiful woman, carefully pushes a huge hamburger, izmazyvaya thin graceful fingers into the fatty layer of mayonnaise, and the dropping out of the mouth pieces of lettuce? No, I hardly ever see! Food - a philosophy of the soul! If you distribute to the "soul" of the morning fatty sausage with ketchup, where the soul you sing?

But the toast with cheese and a cup of natural coffee - this is what we need. Add lettuce and a slice of cucumber .... See the difference? That's her soul feels. Love burgers? No one is forcing them to abandon. Baked patties no worse fried in a pan, but much more useful! Try different recipes, and get rid of pests direct: mayonnaise, "buns, tarts" butter, heavy cream, sour cream ... and so on. Do you like chocolate? Go to the bitter. You can start with 55%, it's a little more sweet, and further increase the percentage. Generally exclude from the diet of sugary soda. It provokes thirst, and does not quench it - it has long been for anybody not a secret. So, raise self-esteem, calories - to decline!

If you do not deal with hunger and can not cope with them, we begin with a simple. Before each meal drink a full glass of water immediately notice how your appetite diminished. We accustom ourselves to this day. For clean water your body will thank you immensely. According to statistics, about 78% of people in the world suffer from dehydration! And it is not the people of Africa, and we are with you. How much plain water you drink a day? A glass or two if not any, at the rate of two liters per day. Man at 70-80% water. Tea, coffee, juices do not replace the water! We drink a lot of good clean water!

Make a habit of the house there is a knife and fork. Put in front of a mirror and look "from outside" how beautiful you look during the meal. Do not like correcting errors nravitsja improving technique!

• Speak nicely

Remember the wisdom of "loudest barking pooch. Silent and vyderzhka- hallmark of the breed. " Always spoke quietly. There are small and simple secrets of oratory, as beautiful and coherent to say. Imagine that you - the leading news and read the article again, but loudly, with expression; You can look at myself in the mirror at this point, or even record the reading on the recorder. The third time, you most like the sound of your voice. Train, and you do not notice, you start to talk as in everyday life.

And, of course, we read the classics! Vocabulary should allow you to articulate thoughts. No words-parasites, and even more swearing! You want to be heard - shout want to be heard - speak softly! The interviewer will instinctively listen to the quiet sound. Do not forget that silence is gold, and successfully inserted into the conversation the phrase can refer to your side's fortunes.

Once Faina Ranevskaya, I met a young, talented aspiring actress, made her a compliment, saying that she looks good. Actress in response said that she would like to reciprocate the compliment, but, alas, it would be a lie. You know how to respond Ranevskaya? The phrase: "Do you tell lies, as I did! "And a brilliantly avoided embarrassment by using the phrase sounded successfully!

• We care for themselves

It is not even a rule - it's the law! As Coco Chanel once said: "Hands girl - it's her business card, neck - her passport, chest - a passport." And it does not say that now the roads manicure and a beautician can be ruined. All you can do yourself, and no worse than in beauty salons. Clear lacquer will give a healthy shine neat clean nails. Three aspirins with a tablespoon of water - is a simple and inexpensive way to get rid of the small red rash on the face, and in fact only need to mix the ingredients, put on your face and wash off after 10 minutes. Nothing complicated, right?

Desire - a thousand opportunities, unwillingness - a thousand reasons. What should always be a separate item of expenditure in the budget - a hairdresser. Hair should always be stacked. After a quality haircut good master even a hastily assembled in the tail hair will look stylish. Another rule of thumb: the hair should be only on the head! The body can be extremely fragrant body lotion. And if the winter outside, it does not give us the right to ignore this rule. It does not matter that no one can see. It is important that you see it for yourself.

Here, for example, you are all so, ignore this rule, crosses the street on her high heels and stumbled tuck leg. A crowd gathers around to cause "fast". Coach Comes with a red cross on the sides and comes out of it that's your dream man in a white coat. It catches you in his arms and carries on the couch ... .chto is asking, and, while you breathless and without hearing a word of his uniform, looking into the depths of his bottomless blue eyes, he rolls up his trouser leg to you, and then ... oh, horror! You say it is unlikely? Not only, but still likely. We must always be ready for any turn of fate!

As long as you do not like herself, no one will not do this. Love yourself such what you are. If you do not like the reflection in the mirror because of the extra kilos, it does not matter, choose a gym close to home. Expensive? So do the exercises at home by yourself. Laziness? So, turn on your favorite song and dance! Yes! Dance! And it must be an energetic dance. The excuse "I do not know," there is also misplaced. We do not live in the Stone Age. Writes to the lessons of modern dance, amaze your home, and also improves self-esteem!

In general, the perception by others always have to look "through fingers", especially if you want to raise self-esteem. Once Faina Ranevskaya (hope that she was confident in myself 200%, no doubt?) I said, "I do not care what you think of me. I do not think about you at all. " So let us not reinvent the wheel, everything is thought out to us.

Make it a rule every morning over a cup of coffee to read a couple of wise sayings of great men, and follow their advice. After all, we know exactly what we want! To be successful, and therefore self-confident! Let's say you do not go out of my head kind of problem, you just can not deal with it. So, we go from the back and if we can not change the situation, change the attitude towards it. This will help you become a confident person with high self-esteem.

Now let's close our eyes again and imagine yourself be what we can be right now, reading these lines - quite a confident person. Look at yourself. Beautiful, glowing in the sun hair, which develops wind confident, flirty look from under lush eyelashes. Graceful fingers with perfect nails naturally hold a handbag, so that combined with a light stylish dress, hiding an amazing sexy underwear. Elegant tripping and always - a genuine smile. Yes, this is a new you, the one who managed to raise the self-esteem!

Remember that really strong, confident people are always a big heart full of love. Do not be afraid of change, love all around.

Feel free to change something in your life, especially if you want it the heart and soul! Each time leaving the house, believe that today is a miracle will happen in your life, even if small, but still a miracle. Stop ... .a why should it not be great?

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Thoughts aloud: how to learn to speak correctly?

Contents:

• What distinguishes a good speaker
• Silence is golden. Beautiful speech - a lot of gold
• Nightingale is filled, but the audience there
• That's the whole science - the use of health

The ability to correctly and beautifully clothe his thoughts in verbal expression, to bring it to one or more of the audience - it is very expensive stoit.Takie abilities are valued and admired among the people. There are lucky having this talent from birth, helping them to be successful in all spheres of life.

Other people have to care about how to learn how to talk and express their thoughts beautifully, learning the secrets and nuances of oratory and skill. In order to develop the skill to talk nicely, competently and correctly, you should show patience and perseverance, and the first fruits of applied effort will not make yourself wait. You can enjoy the full result, when will develop the skills of communication and eloquence to perfection.

What distinguishes a good speaker?

In each of us lives a small speaker who has something to say to listeners. But to make it a truly unsurpassed master of the words may be only a certain set of qualities:

• erudition and erudition. Large vocabulary and appropriate knowledge - without these attributes, it will be quite colorless and inspiring others
• clarity and intelligibility of the spoken words. If your diction is poor and the students have to make considerable efforts to good to hear you, you are expected effect of his speeches do not get. Or you do not get the one that you expected
• self-control and feel the audience: at the right time to keep the excitement and appropriate - to give his speech, the necessary emotional. You are working on a rumor of his interlocutors, and in the end to touch their souls. Always remember this!

Silence is golden. Beautiful speech - a lot of gold

To each of us learned how to speak correctly, beautifully and convincingly, you need to stick to just a few recommendations and rules. It is not too burdensome for the time and physical costs, does not affect your budget and will bring you a lot of all sorts of additional bonuses. For example, expand your horizons and areas of interest, you will find many like-minded people and make new friends and girlfriends.

Methods, exercises, techniques, methods - will be fully prepared

To learn how to speak correctly, need to improve the following:

• Breathing

Begin your workout is with his performances. Correct breathing will be delivered discreetly while casting lengthy dialogue, when there is a danger that you will not have enough air. Typically, this happens if breathing breast. It is easily identified by inhalation. If during your breasts lifted it, then your breath is breastfeeding. We need to learn to breathe the diaphragm, to put it simply - the stomach. Technique here is quite simple. Start slowly inhale air, let your belly is rounded and expands like a balloon. Check the following point: your shoulders should not move and climb. For a moment, hold your breath in at the point and start to breathe. Soon you'll do it automatically.

• Diction

Proverbs and tongue twisters - that's your first assistants for its development. If you want to complicate the training, then put in your mouth nuts. This method is used by all the people, speaking to an audience, if they are important to them it was clear to the audience. We are not just talking about a radio announcer or the TV. Politicians, teachers, singers - all of them important to have a perfect diction.

• Timbre, tone and speed of speech

The voice of a man - a real musical instrument. It is possible to play a musical work, if the one who will play, has a skill. Begin to learn your voice - make the audio and listen to it carefully. How has the timbre of your voice? Do not unduly harsh? It is possible that you need to give it more melodic. What is the volume and emotion inherent in your voice? Maybe we should speak a little softer or louder, a little slower or faster? What makes the voice of the extra touches? Certainly, it is the ability to add emotion into spoken words. Make sure your speech is not monotonous and indifferent - you want to be listened to, but not asleep.

• Word - is power

So, to be the most powerful in eloquence, it is necessary to know a lot of words. You are probably faced with people who spoiled the impression about yourself before an audience when he was unable to pick up the necessary words, mumbled something unintelligible, making long pauses in unsuccessful attempts to better express their thoughts. Or worse - used vocabulary trite clichés and stamps, countersigned offer words-parasites and did things like that, very negative impact on his performance.

You will be able to avoid a similar fate is very simple, but the most effective way. Read books. Fiction, especially the classics, not only helps to increase vocabulary, but also enrich you culturally. You will gather for themselves a lot of useful knowledge from other areas, which is a clear advantage. Tell yourself that you will now collect new words, like a collector. Or like the rich man who puts a coin in a piggy bank. Do not forget to use dictionaries, encountering an unknown word. This will not only secure in their minds its sound, but also learn its fair value.

• Self-confidence

Stop thinking that your speech is not perfect. In fact, the surrounding occupied not only the constant tracing defects in your speech. It is an illusion. Especially if they are due to obvious reasons: your excitement, for example. But believe me, for you will be the best if you are able to gather the strength to pull myself together and easy to start a conversation, speech or talks with the audience. The more you practice, applying their skills in practice, not in theory, the faster you will receive confirmation that you have everything turns out perfectly. You have become a virtuoso - so rejoice the same!

• Written speech

The reality now is that we do not always carry out dialogue with interlocutors through personal contact. We are many, and often it is necessary to use a virtual communication with other people. We visit the forums and other online sites, sit in chats, send emails, chat on social networks and programs of sending quick messages. Make it a rule in this communication always follow the rules correctly and beautifully rechi.Pravilnoe spelling, literate style, the use of punctuation marks and other subtleties make it enjoyable for your companion, even in the virtual space.

Nightingale is filled, but the audience there

You proved to be a diligent student, used all our tips and tricks honed his talent beautifully and correctly speak simply of the ideal, but there is something strange. You a little uncomfortable with this, but at some point there is even a deep resentment. Apart from whether you have the ability to speak correctly and beautifully, you should have some more useful skills have lots of fun with other people. Look closely at their behavior, characterized by a sudden you some mistakes, which we will tell you now. They are strongly influenced by a desire to communicate with you from the people around them, but to fix them yourself is not difficult.

• Bird-talker

You have discovered the wonderful world of words. You are so eager to use their knowledge that any communication with people is transformed into a personal statement. You do not hear and do not listen to anyone except the person. Fountain your eloquence is inexhaustible in the literal sense of the word. But interlocutors would also like to speak, and you deprive them of the right to their verbal flow, in which they are just afraid of drowning. Remember that communication provides an opportunity to communicate and the right to vote to all panelists. Do not break them. Otherwise, you really will soon begin to talk only to itself.

• I refuse to say in the absence of his lawyer!

You are interested in communication with counterparts that your dialogue with the parties resembles interrogation. You ask one question after another, which may discourage the unprepared person. Perhaps we should for their part say something funny or interesting to the interlocutor did not work for you misconception. Besides, this is an excellent opportunity to show their skills of a talented orator.

• We have nothing to talk to you

You find a great topic for conversation in the usual circle of friends. But you have trouble if you have to come into contact with strangers or unfamiliar people. You start to lose, inwardly asking yourself what you can talk at the moment, does not occur to any one bright idea. And then it hangs awkward and painful for all silence. Remember, there is always the neutral topics that can safely get into embarrassing to discuss even with strangers. The books that you keep reading, movies, travel, culture, and more. Oh you, you probably have something to tell the world, and most importantly - it's as nice and right now you can do it.

• I understand you perfectly

You are in full confidence that you are with someone on the same wavelength. Catch on the fly of his thought, the word literally tear his lips. You feel real excited about what is happening. What can not be said about your opponents. Do you think that they continue to think, but it may seem that you are rude to interrupt them and give them say a word. Perhaps you would have invested much more eloquent than my own thoughts into words, but nowhere do it for conversation. After all, he does not ask you about this service.

• Is my point of view, and all other than it - wrong

You have the words of such capital and knowledge, it is involuntary is impressive to anyone lucky enough to talk with you. Only recently, you notice that intercourse was less. Think about it: maybe your interest in sharing knowledge and defend their point of view in any, even the most unpretentious conversation tiring your listeners? "Hold your horses," the next time you talk and talk not about the latest research in genetic engineering or nuclear tests, and on a sunny day and the fresh wind. It is desirable that you are the listener, not the narrator.

• Sad, bored, gloomy

Have you noticed one day that there are people who are guaranteed to make others like warm fire in the cold? They have fun with them comfortable with them positively. You are now able to speak beautifully and wisely - to say so joyful, interesting and bright threads. Watch the audience: if you see that the issue has exhausted itself, then move on to discuss something else, not musolte subject and do not pour from a sieve to infinity.

That's the whole science - the use of health

As it turns out in the end, learn to speak properly maintain a beautiful and elegant conversation, mesmerized the audience with their sweet words - not such a tricky science. All in your hands, ladies. Although it is not entirely accurate. It is better and more correct to say - in your mouth.

Put your thoughts, your feelings in your voice, vesting them in words in question. Let your interaction takes great mutual pleasure to all who had the good fortune to talk to you before, and who will in the future. Using our tips, you will surely earn a reputation as an excellent companion that knows how to beautifully and accurately express their thoughts and listen to the interlocutors.

Perhaps, before the glory of Scheherazade did not give you no rest day or night. Now, you really could make it a very strong competition. Continue to hone his oratory and on, because the ideal is unattainable, but the pursuit of it so exciting! In our life, everything has meaning, no wonder they say that words can hurt or even kill. Let the words that you use, sow only good, eternal and wise in the hearts of the people they are!

How to attract a man in your life with the help of practical psychology

Contents:

• What women like men?
• Psychological barriers
• Useful additions

Do you know the essence of the theory of two halves? This is a very beautiful story that once all men were androgynous, ie they combine both male and female part. Their lives are going incredibly happy: all day they gathered fruit, strolling along the seashore, listening to bird song. But one day the gods were angry with them. Whether irritated their human happiness, whether they feared an attempt on his authority by the androgynous, but it so happened that they were all divided into two halves. Since then, every man is doomed to sorrow and anguish as long as he finds his companion.

It does not matter whether it was all so real or not, but the fact remains - no woman is comfortable in solitude. Accordingly, she starts to think about how to attract a man in her life. Naturally, he did not limp calf, which can be easily controlled. However, in order to increase your chances, you can easily take steps in this direction.

What women like men?

In order to understand how to attract a man in your life, you need to begin to deal with what is considered attractive, and what is not. Of course, all the guys are different, but despite this, it is possible to allocate some more or less precise contours of the ideal to which they aspire. At least, this applies to the charges against the men. So what attracts their feminine qualities?

• Beauty

  The man loves his eyes - or at least, so he falls in love. Accordingly, in order to get his attention, you must be at least aesthetically appealing. And best of bright and beautiful. Many women misunderstand this idea of ​​making a fifth the size of his chest, pumped up with silicone lip or flashy makeup. But the opposite is true: among the generation of young women, similar to Barbie dolls, the owner of the sensual natural beauty is much more advantageous look.

• Supports

  This concept is extremely multi-faceted! At the beginning of dating may provide support to the delight of women by men. They like to feel important and cool. Furthermore, it can degenerate into support in difficult situations, when a woman gives advice to the man and said to him kind words. And, of course, the notorious cooking. What else could it mean but women care? That is why men are so greedy for delicious home made soup and cutlets.

• The mind

  A woman should not be smarter than men - at least it should not be felt in their communication. But it is important that he was interested in her. This can be achieved by common tastes and trends. And sometimes a woman can surprise your partner what some unknown facts or anecdotes. A sense of humor also plays a big role in the issue of communication, and it largely depends on the level of intelligence.

• Flexibility

  Men like to feel in charge. They decide how things will happen. After a quarrel, they will never approach the first tolerated. Accordingly, they are attracted to girls who do not stand in the position at every opportunity. On the contrary, a wise woman will find a way to adapt to the tastes and opinions of his men, without losing yourself in the process. She knows how to smooth the conflict, gently stroking his arm and whispered something in your ear. She knows that and at what point you need to do to support the masculine energy of the elect. With it, he feels like a king of the world.

• Softness

  Now the fashion for women "warriors" who know how to stand up for themselves, and get nasty curse. And someone they even bite, but a normal man is always to push! Femininity and softness can transform any: gestures become easy and unhurried gait - a smooth, appears in the eyes shine. Woman becomes like a flower that begins to unfold. And why a man wants to be with her.

Psychological barriers

Above, we have described is what girls are most attractive to men. But life is not only a plus, but a minus. Unfortunately, many of us are unhappy owner of a variety of psychological barriers that hinder the construction of a harmonious relationship. What is it expressed?

Self-doubt - the first and most important obstacle to love. What man would be interested in a woman who herself does not like? Perhaps you present some drawbacks. But you are a living person, and there are shortcomings at all! There are two ways in front of you - get rid of them or else be reconciled to their presence. But to live with the knowledge of their own inferiority - incorrect. You are beautiful as a woman no matter how you look and what you are doing. It is important to catch this inner sense and energizes him, and along with her man to bestow it.

Full version of the self-doubt - it is complex. Usually they do not arise from nowhere, and based on some traumatic experience. For example, school girl has bad skin, for that it is very teasing, and since then she considers herself ugly. Or my mother all his life told her how awkward it is, because then nobody will marry. This is a very bad thing to be got rid of it with the help of a specialist who will develop for you special psychological exercises and will give the necessary support.

Each of us have our own stereotypes about how the world works. For example, all employees FMS - harmful aunt. So our mind works when there are some strict scheme, it helps us not to expend energy every time to the study of the situation, and just think in pre-known categories. But sometimes it also happens that some stupid stereotypes begin to interfere with us. Perhaps our readers have faced male meanness. And after that I want to hang a label on all men: "Goats! "And proudly walk with him through life! Only here, in this case it is likely that a) men really behave with you as you expect them to; b) because of the stereotype that you do not make out someone really worthy. Therefore, from these stereotypes, particularly for men, it is necessary to dispose.

Lack of knowledge of male psychology - another obstacle to women's happiness. Often we just do not understand what's going on in their heads. But those from whom we are to love and understanding! So why not learn how to understand them? For example, a woman complains of a long man, and received in response to dry Council on the situation starts to get angry and accuse him of spiritual callousness. Or he says that he earns little. All these examples show just how badly women predict the consequences of their actions and do not know the specifics of male behavior. Get rid of this you will be good books on male psychology and the view from the inside of the male friends, who are able to reveal to you some of the secrets of his soul.

Useful additions

So now you know what attracts men, but that does not allow them to come into your life. This does not mean that it is necessary to redraw the fanatical self. But think about what prevents you from being feminine, will not be superfluous. Now it is time to be more specific. We offer you useful practical advice, the use of which will inevitably attract a guy in your life.

1. Realize your desires

   You should not rush into the pool with his head, and fall into the arms of the first comer men. It is likely that your call will be to respond to many, but you need to determine the order of man you want to see next to him, and to abandon those who does not suit you. So be sure to draw in his mind the image of someone who is attractive to you. Avoid excessive demands, but pay attention to the really important for you to quality.

2. Visualization

   Once it becomes clear what a man you want to attract into your life, start a simple but effective psychological exercise. Each evening, imagine the desired future: your partner than you do with him as he treats you, your reaction to his behavior. And all of this should be traced in your imagination in every detail. The more of them will be - the better. You know one of the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming? Talk about the desired future as if it has already occurred. Behave in accordance with this. And it is sure to become a reality.

3. Think positively

   Do not focus on possible impediments to implementation in the life of your dreams. Fill your mind optimistic and light installations that the world is perfect and just, and you are worthy of love. Believe it really. Yes, it will be difficult, but the belief in a better ability to lead you to your dream of love. No man wants to be gloomy and sad woman, so try to get rid of your own negativity. It is very beautiful and bright contribute to a love story.

4. Proceed

   Of course, you can do any number of psychological exercises, but the miracle did not come until you do not help him to come into your life. So the world works - the man is a conductor of the supreme will. Therefore it is useless to sit on the couch and wait for fate itself will bring you love on a silver platter. Most leave the house and smile. Try to dress up and look attractive. Meet the men without unnecessary fears and thoughts about where this will lead. Be spontaneous and trust the process, but without the hassle.

The happiness of each person is in his own hands. You can change your life for the better. What is happiness for a woman? My favorite man near and well-being of the family. You deserve this - believe and act in the right direction. Then the result will not be long in coming.

What jealous girlfriend and how to fight it

Contents:

• Envy to various material values
• Envy is a happy personal relationships
• Envy is a beautiful appearance
• Envy of skills and talents

Envy is quite familiar condition for most people, because we are so constructed that can not compare yourself to others. So, many psychological studies conducted in different countries have shown that all of the people in the new team, or simply surrounded by strangers, immediately begin on a subconscious level to some extent to evaluate other people. After carrying out this assessment, which is often the person does not even realize that automatically "turned on" the envy of the characteristics of other people who seem to be better.

The above-described feeling familiar to all people, but most of all they appear just at women - because of their psychological characteristics. Every woman at least once in his life faced with envy friends, which often is not only able to completely destroy a friendship, but also upset the delicate balance of their own psychological attitudes. Why is this happening and what to do to protect themselves from the negative effects of this destructive feeling, we take a closer look in this article.

Envy to various material values

Most often, friends are jealous that you have the opportunity to dress up, buy expensive cosmetics, go to rest several times a year and similar opportunities related to material values. Such jealousy is quite logical and useful even if it does not impact negatively on the development of friendly relations. All women tend to experience such envy, and even you can often catch myself thinking: "Am I jealous of his girlfriend? ".

These feelings in most cases, contribute to the occurrence of an irresistible desire to prove itself first of all, that you too can achieve no less than your girlfriend, and even outdo it. If the relationship due to her jealousy of you seeks to show that she can earn a certain material goods, there is nothing wrong with that.

Quite a different situation when a friend starts to feel not just envy to what you have, but wish you lose it all or lose the opportunity to learn new things. Such jealousy is called "black", no good, it usually does not.

To cope with such a destructive envy, you must try to show her friend that she could accomplish the same thing as you. If your friend is simply not enough determination to start earning the money necessary for the implementation of all its material desires, try to help her practical advice, and to instill in her the belief that with proper persistence it can easily realize all their ideas.

If a friend has no idea how to achieve financial well-being, allow it to read books that once helped you, or convince her that we should not be afraid of their own ideas, but rather immediately begin to implement them. You can also introduce a girlfriend to the right people who can help her move up the career ladder, or open their own business.

Another option - to provide the opportunity to learn that her friend what she wants, or give her a certificate to attend various courses. If you still decide to undergo training to something with a friend and in the process show that it gives you a lot more complicated than it, it is likely that it will revive the spirit and begin enthusiastically to translate new knowledge into practice, earning money for their unique skills.

As a rule, the methods described above often allow you to completely get rid of envy girlfriend or redirect it in a constructive direction. If you have tried everything, but nothing worked, not torment in conjecture why it happened, and just try to take the situation for granted. You can wait for a while until a friend she did not realize that you need not envy you, and the very act in those areas, which will help it to achieve material prosperity. If over time the ratio girlfriend to you is not changed, it makes sense to gradually reduce her communication to a minimum, since such relations will not bring you any positive emotions.

You may visit the idea to take a friend to work for him or her to start a joint business, in one fell swoop to get rid of envy and to your physical facilities, and maintain friendships. Such a decision is a major mistake that many successful modern girls, because in most cases it leads to disastrous consequences. The fact is that any pathologically jealous girlfriend did not miss the opportunity to spoil you, spreading various rumors about you at work, your reputation and impaired a little seriously, even substituting you, depriving the main source of income. At the same time your colleagues and co-workers it can say that I supposedly did not envy her friend and just try to make her good work, to speak openly about all of its advantages and disadvantages.

If, however, a friend, on the contrary, is well versed in the specifics of your work, there is a big risk that over time, the authorities will start to appreciate it a lot more, not you, is also fraught with complete cessation of friendship or even its transformation into a real hatred. So think a hundred times before you make a friend a part of his working life, and it is better never to bind friendships and working relationships.

Envy is a happy personal relationships

In cases where you have a reliable favorite person with whom you are all well, and the girlfriend of the case on the love front ladyatsya not permanently, then over time it may well begin to envy you. At first, such a jealousy is often the nature of slight disappointment and longing, so is not dangerous. However, if a friend a long time is one, it may begin to envy to acquire a very negative connotation. In order not to bring the friendship to open confrontation, it should be time to take certain measures to reduce to nothing envy or just redirect the focus girlfriend on a completely different side of life.

If your girlfriend is constantly meets with new boyfriend, but neither one of them the relationship she simply does not add up, it is necessary to analyze why this is happening. In addition, you can always directly ask his girlfriend, what it does not like in a relationship with one or another of the stronger sex. If, having analyzed all the data you have, you will realize that a friend just chooses not those men, guided laid on a subconscious level the mechanism of occurrence of unhappy feelings during the first unrequited love, you should try to break the script.

This can be reduced with the friend of his good friends male friends of his brother or loved one in the most appropriate environment for dialogue. It is possible that the relationship thus find their own happiness, which will be unspeakably happy. The problem of envy in this case will disappear by itself, and your friendship will once again be the same confidence as before.

The most difficult scenario assumes that your girlfriend wants to build a relationship is not with some abstract man, and with your loved ones, and tries by all means to win his attention. If you two hundred percent sure of his feelings of men towards you, you can simply try to wait until the girlfriend does not find himself another object of seduction.

However, it is better not to allow too informal communication of your second half with his enthusiastic friend, because all men in varying degrees, are impressed by the interest of another woman. That it can help ensure that your better half decides to test his spell in practice, changing you with your own girlfriend, which will inevitably lead to the collapse of both love and friendship.

To prevent the possibility of betrayal and beloved friend, you can try to shift attention to another friend sphere of life, for example, any hobby, sport or career. However, such an option is often ineffective because a friend is simply not going to give up on what it entails so much.

Enough rare women who can curb his own jealousy of happiness loving friend and explain to herself that she should not try to ruin your relationship with your loved one. If your girlfriend is so, then you are very lucky. If not, the only sure way to resolve this difficult situation is to stop any communication with my girlfriend and her complete deletion of his life.

Also found a set of circumstances where you have long been willing to part with her lover, but all do not dare to it for one reason or another. If at this moment a friend starts to show any signs of attention to your man, then you may well "cede" it to her to continue, so the friendship. The only condition for a positive outcome of this situation is the lack of you then a zeal that is not based on feelings, but on a normal possessiveness.

Envy is a beautiful appearance

As for all women of great importance is how they look, it is very often the girlfriend may be jealous of a beautiful appearance. If you are in certain ways superior to his girlfriend, it is likely that over time it will begin to annoy her, and then trigger the emergence of jealousy. Particularly relevant in this question becomes an environment where you need to appeal to any young person, but you can do to prevent it, diverting his attention to his impressive appearance. To deal with such envy is very difficult because women striving for perfection is ineradicable, but through the use of various tricks can restore the old relationship of trust with a friend, not clouded envious thoughts.

If you are ready for the sake of friendship to change something in their appearance, try some time to look less bright and spectacular than on ordinary days. As a rule, such a shake-up is enough time to envious girlfriend realized that your appearance is not perfect and you too can look quite normal. Another option - to start constant friend to complain, what incredible efforts you got a slim figure, well-groomed skin, beautiful hair, perfect manicure, etc.

You can even try to attach to his girlfriend sports and a variety of beauty treatments at the salon. This allows you to immediately "kill two birds with one stone": to get rid of unwarranted jealousy girlfriends and help to improve her appearance, which will affect your relationship only in the best way.

A risky way to resolve the situation, the task involves the girlfriend question directly about why she is jealous of your looks. Of course, at first it will not be recognized in their envious feelings, but if you can convince her that did not want to quarrel, but just want to understand how to cope with the tension in your friendships, you are likely to get from it the long-awaited answer.

Just remember that in any case can not use the information in order to once again show his superiority over his girlfriend. We must, on the contrary, to try to understand what a friend would like to change in yourself to feel the most attractive and stop envying you. Then you can help her change her hairstyle, choose the right makeup, wardrobe and choose wisely, in general, to change her image so that she looks great and always felt confident.

Envy of skills and talents

Many women may envy her friends, because they seem to them more talented. Any special abilities, skills, or simply the most creative, interesting and varied activities as the main occupation in life may well cause less talented friends a certain envy. And in this case, you often do not understand what is there to be jealous, as the girlfriend sincerely believes a creative and multi-faceted personality, and how you are. This is what you have to show his girlfriend so that she will believe it, and stopped often feel unmotivated jealousy.

The popular belief that each person is talented in his own way, in fact, is a sheer truth. To demonstrate this friend, you should pay attention to is not her ability, admired the majority of other people, and that it simply does not notice. If at first glance these skills can not be detected, should dig a little deeper, paying attention to all the little things that go right to your girlfriend's best.

For example, it can be an ideal pick each other different elements of attire and accessories that will allow it to make a very successful career in the fashion industry. Or she knows how to cook wonderful, combining different ingredients in such a way that in the end produced a completely new and original dishes, the taste of which leads to the delight of family and friends. Such a clear penchant for culinary delights will be an excellent cook girlfriend. In any case, you can find something that a friend be able to do much better than others, and make sure that it is fully realized.

To get rid of envy girlfriend to any of your talent, you can also start regularly consult with it, particularly stressing that her advice is very valuable for you. If you see that your friend wants something to help, never pushed her away, even if in fact you do not need such assistance. Try to make your own creation at least a few small items on the advice of a friend, to interpret them in a way that she was happy, and your business is not affected. Often, such a simple way can not only rid the women's friendship with jealousy, but also make it much more robust and reliable.

Using the data above recommendations in certain situations, you are sure to get rid of envy a friend who poison your friendship. If none of the methods did not work, and the girlfriend stubbornly refuses to go to a frank conversation to "dot the i", it makes sense to gradually reduce it to no communication.

Of course, you can try to cling to friendship, recalling the days when all you had with a friend was wonderful, but nothing good is, as a rule, does not end. The fact that a man who absolutely do not want to admit his jealousy and in any way to fight it is unlikely to ever support something you would definitely like real friends. So the most correct decision in this case is to end all relations with a friend.

When the girlfriend herself admits that he envies you anything, but it is the envy of quite innocent in nature, and even pushes her to commit any active steps to deal with it is not necessary. This envy is one of the best ways of self-improvement, which is necessary for each person to bright and full of life, rich variety of events. If a friend as a result of these actions reach for something meaningful in life, not only cease to envy you, and will do its utmost grateful to you for example, through which she was able to become a better and more successful.

If you ever find yourself thinking: "It seems that I was jealous of her friend, no less than it is me," In no case do not worry, and do not blame yourself for having experienced a similar feeling. Try to understand what kind of color is your envy - the "white" or "black"? If envy girlfriend did not just motivates you to achieve new heights in various spheres of life, taking nothing.

If envy is a clear negative connotation, and undermines the foundations of your friendship from the inside, above all, determine what it is you are jealous, and then talk openly with a friend to resolve this situation with minimal losses.

How to successfully pass an interview: tips for the winners

Contents:

• Mental attitude
• Information training
• A quality level for the appropriate qualification
• Business look

Want to find your dream job? Or at least just a little bit your preferred position? Then your head is probably clogged with thoughts of how to successfully pass an interview, because without this important event you can not see the work as their ears. There are many nuances that are very important for the successful completion of the job search, and we'll tell you about them.

Mental attitude

It's no secret that the right mental attitude is necessary for you to have gone through all the tests with dignity. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to instill itself, even after reading ten articles on how to successfully pass an interview. And sometimes it is even a hindrance, especially if you handled yourself horror stories about the interview.

For example, there is one error that interview with you will be sure to spend some "green" a layman - a young girl or a young man without much life experience, the issues which will be ridiculous and offensive to you. But even if your first meeting about the work actually take place with a recruiter, it does not mean the collapse of all hopes. Specialist recruitment must possess very specific knowledge in the field of psychology, professiografii, psycho-diagnostics, and many others, and it is from this (instead of age!) Depends on the quality of his work. So do not with contempt and disdain for such meetings. And if you're so set up your girlfriend, think about it: maybe they still are out of work due to such negative attitudes?

Another popular myth regarding the interview - is the idea that the recruiter only dreams of you to "fill up." This is not true! Quite the contrary - he is interested in as quickly as possible closure of the vacancy. But if a worker whom he approves, will be unqualified, he will fall on his head the wrath of their superiors, which anyone would like to avoid. That is why so carefully recruiter will check the information you provide about yourself - Take him and help him in this!

Many job seekers believe that the interviewer and the candidate for the position should have approximately the same social, material and business status, otherwise the score will be somewhat biased. However, a qualified specialist during the procedure of selection of abstracts from their own life situation and is guided by a professionally significant information: the requirements to the employee, working conditions, qualifications of the applicant, etc. ...

The key to proper mental attitude is to win over their own fears. Indeed, the man who recently left the usual workplace or even student's desk, it is not easy to give confidence and calm behavior, although they provide a successful job interview. Constituents have this fear of weight: the fear of not getting a job, fear of ridicule, the reluctance to do something wrong. But do not despair - there are a number of psychological techniques that will help you tune in:

1. Visualization of charts - a great way to cope with excessive anxiety and fear

   Our mind is not very well able to distinguish fantasy from reality, so if you imagine your interview in detail and with a successful outcome, it will significantly increase your chances of success. Complement the image of pleasant sensations: imagine some joyful event - for example, a meeting with friends - and transferred from there to a meeting with the employer.

2. Come up with a suitable metaphor for a successful interview

   For example, for you it can be like a test, playing "catch-up" self-presentation or a game of chess. The main thing - to such a comparison makes you positive associations that you were successful in your chosen field of activity.

3. Dekatastrofizatsiya

   Many fears arise in us because of the fact that we are exaggerating the effect of adverse effects. Therefore, firstly, make a list of all kinds of negative phenomena and see at what point is the failure of the interview. Agree, there are a lot of things much worse! Second, the detailed explanation of what the worst could happen if you do not get a job? That's right, you just find a different, and most likely, it will be due to the fact that the first does not suit you.

4. Relaxation techniques

   If anxiety is not going anywhere, it is time for you to apply techniques such as autogenous training. This is done as follows: in a quiet environment include meditation music, take a comfortable position (sitting or lying down can be), relax and repeat specific formula, such as "I am calm" or "I will succeed." More information can be found in the relevant literature. Relaxation techniques are particularly effective in their regular use.

The result of this kind of work on oneself must become self-confidence and success. That it will allow you to make an excellent impression on the interviewer, which, as is known, can more than offset any possible gaps in your education and qualifications. Of course, to get rid of fear and anxiety is difficult, but they should not bother you! Do not forget to tune in to the interview calm and looseness - and certainly the position will be yours.

Information training

It's no secret that information in the twenty-first century - a weapon of mass destruction. Why would you not use it? Do not worry, no injuries - you just gently and quietly "ocharuete" interviewer his enlightenment. All you need to do - to gather information on the following areas:

• The data about the company and its fields of activity;
• Data on the structural unit to which the vacancy belongs;
• Data on positions and duties;
• Data on the CEO;
• Data on the interview;

Has information about the organization and its fields of activity is necessary, otherwise you will be hard to understand what the interviewer will talk to your meeting. Various nuances are important: how long the company has been working in the market, and that it produces or sells, what is its purpose and mission, and much more. All these issues are best as possible to specify in the public domain, such as the Internet.

It is also advisable to find out the details of the department in which you may be working. What are the functions of this department, who his boss as it assesses the effectiveness of the work - agree, it is useful to know about this before employment. Rather, these details are important to you, because you certainly do not want that future work was the "pig in a poke."

The same applies to the post: to decide whether you want to work in the organization or not, you need to have the most complete information about the potential job. It is possible that your future boss and you have a few different ideas about what should be engaged in management. For example, you believe in your duties will include search of clients and contracts with them, and, according to a possible head, this also add search providers, negotiations, the decision of various problems and something else. Agree, do not want to know about it after the job?

Director General - a key figure in the whole company. It depend on it company policy, organizational culture, working conditions, and the efficiency of the whole. It is therefore very useful to know, under whom you work. If it is a large company and the public persona, then try to find information in the media, and if small, then social networks, common acquaintances and employees of the organization can provide you with great service.

In many ways, our anxiety arises from the uncertainty of the situation of the interview. You do not imagine that you expect, so worried. What might be a way out of this situation? That's right, you can paint himself as a more detailed picture of a successful interview. This is possible only if you have complete information about how and what will happen, so read carefully the following paragraphs.

Try to come to an interview a bit in advance - it is better for ten to fifteen minutes - because the delay in this situation is simply unacceptable. If you still encounter any force majeure, be sure to call and tell the interviewer. At the entrance to the office do not forget to say hello to all wait in the waiting room if need be. Turn off your mobile phone before the meeting - nothing should distract you. Upon entering the room, say hello and smile - the effect of the first impression has not been canceled. Sit on a chair facing the other person, or if necessary, a little move and expand it. Posture is better to choose low-key, but not clamped.

Listen carefully to all the questions the interviewer asks you, do not interrupt and quietly respond to them. Asks if something suddenly became clear. Most likely, you will be asked to tell about themselves - in this case, you should get your professional merits, without duplicating what is in the resume. Toward the end of the interview you will be sure to provide an opportunity to ask their own questions - you can use it to specify all the details remain unclear. After the meeting, Speak connectivity options with a potential employer, thank the interviewer and friendly goodbye.

A quality level for the appropriate qualification

Surely you and you know that you need to look for a job corresponding to their experience, education and orientation. So the first thing is to say even before the interview - it is not necessary to consider jobs that do not fit you in the level or function: either you wasting your time on a meeting with a recruiter or, perhaps, get a job, but soon realize that no deal, or you get tired of it. Although there are exceptions - in cases when you want to radically change the direction of professional activity.

The availability of suitable qualifications for little cherished position - should this level also demonstrate. Of course, you can talk about what you are wonderful, intelligent and talented employee, but the interviewer should also see it. So, what should be in an ideal self-presentation?

1. Grammatically correct speech

   Needless to say how important the knowledge of grammatical, lexical and stylistic foundations of the Russian language, especially for a person who is tried in positions related to communication. If your speech is replete with errors, nothing good from the interviews do not wait.

2. Stress resistance

   Quality number one, according to employers. Every day, the modern worker happens to so many surprises that he must be able to deal with them. If you do not know how - the result of suffering, which is not good. So when the interviewer starts to provoke you into a nervous behavior, stay calm, because it is now estimated as resistance to stress.

3. Self confidence

   Nobody wants an alarming and a dependent worker. It is believed that a confident person can bring to the end started, it is easier to overcome difficulties. The employer reads it according to your posture, gestures, facial expressions and gait, so you should remember how you behave in a confident and able to demonstrate this during the interview.

4. The interest and enthusiasm

   Oh-oh-oh, how many words written about how important it is to show the right motivation. It is believed that it is able to compensate for any faults in the other parameters. So do not hesitate to ask questions, to talk about what is interesting to you, because this way you give the employer to understand that you do not care.

5. The ability to accept criticism

   Agree, this is a useful quality for a potential employee. You can not have those who never makes a mistake, and that is why it is so important to be able to learn from their mistakes and receive feedback. So if suddenly the employer will make you remark, quietly listen to him, give thanks and make the right conclusions.

6. High levels of thinking

   Naturally, any employer seeks to rid himself of the stupid workers. Try not to "slow down" during the interview: concentrate, picks up items, analyze incoming data and generate interesting ideas.

Business look

Of course, the first impression formed about you, depending on how you look. Surely there is no need to explain that a job interview is to dress in formal business style. This does not mean that you should not be feminine - it just needs to be emphasized femininity official, not sexual details.

For the meeting with the employer to select high-quality pants or skirt suits, which sits well on you and highlights your dignity. You should feel confident in it. A good alternative would be similar as well as a pencil skirt around knee length (varying it depending on the type of figure). Colors should choose conservative and muted: black, dark gray, beige, dark blue, and others. If it is cold outside, put on top of the classic trench coat or.

Shoes preferably neat, without excessive decoration, heels and covered - regardless of the time of year. Tights are required, and in the winter you can wear thick black tights - they emphasize the length of your feet. The bag should be medium in size and classical forms: briefcase, suitcase, tablet - probably something strict and rectangular A4, which contain all the necessary items and documents. Complete the resulting outfit stylish accessories - neck scarf, earrings, ring and watch, but do not overdo it: sometimes funny, when the position of mid-level claiming lady, dressed to the nines. Complete the resulting image of the touch of your favorite fragrance - and you're ready to achievements.

In just one hour the employer should see your dignity and to understand why he has to take it for you. Therefore, your task - to find a balance in which you treat the interview as an important event and, at the same time, do not concern yourself izvedet. It is necessary to feel the interviewer and follow him in the communication process. No one can guarantee you of certain conditions or progress interviews, so the most important quality - it's flexibility. With it, you'll always be ready for anything. And then the work will be completely yours!

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What answer the interview when applying for a job: training - a way to success

Contents:

• 7 things you have to say during the interview
• 7 things that we should not talk during the interview
• 14 most difficult questions, to which you have to answer

If you are applying for the vacant position, but do not know what to say at the interview when applying for a job, take our hand. We know what we need and what we can not say, answering the questions a recruiter, and show you how to prepare for an interview. And you need to prepare for the interview, and very carefully!

7 things you have to say during the interview

First, let's talk about what you need to tell us about yourself:

1. "I am very familiar with what your company '

   Potential employers are always interested in how much you are familiar with the business of the company, otherwise you and the recruiter only lose time in vain. It may in fact turn out to be what you are looking for something completely different than you can offer in this place. So try to be prepared to talk about it. Explore the Web site to obtain full information about the services it products or services, please read the relevant business news to learn about the latest transactions of the company.

   Be sure recruiter pay attention to what you know, for example, about the latest developments and are familiar with the company's products. It will be a plus in your favor, for you thereby show that your interest and necessary knowledge in this area are the ideal solution for the employer.

2. "I am quite flexible"

   The working environment is constantly changing. Employers are looking for promising candidates, which is open to change and may at any time to adapt to the new conditions. This is very important in the rapidly changing world of modern business, and employees need to be able to solve different problems.

   Expressing its flexibility, you give the employer to understand that they are ready to do everything in your power to get the job done. And will do whatever is necessary when this work will be yours. This may include additional working hours and additional responsibilities in the case of industrial necessity. Show potential employers that you are ready to cope with any crisis situation that may arise during operation.

3. "I am energetic and positive spirit"

   Employers usually look for just such people. Moods are contagious, and they can have a direct impact on employee morale. So try to optimism luchilsya of you during the interview.

   This also applies to your story about why you left previous job. If you talk first about the difficulties, it could give to you a pessimist. The recruiter will receive every reason to believe that you're a bad influence on the situation within the team staff. Is the impression you want to leave yourself?

4. "I have a great experience"

   During a meeting with a recruiter, you get a chance to show their best side. Tell us about any of your previous duties, which relates directly to your new job. For example, when it comes to leadership positions, tell us that you were responsible for the supervision, training and development of other staff. Expand your motivational techniques and give specific examples of how you have contributed to the increase in labor productivity. You can transfer the training seminars held with his former colleagues.

5. "I - a team player"

   You know that the ability to act cohesively as a team, always and everywhere helps to win? Companies are also looking for professionals who know how to get along well with others. Noting that you know how to work in a team, a potential employer will conclude that you will be able to successfully operate in situations where group interaction.

6. "I aspire to, to become an expert in his field"

   Employers prefer candidates who are trying to increase their knowledge base to become the best in their specialty. After your application for this you make the recruiter look at you as a potential asset. You're not the employee, which is similar to moth-lived, but the one that counts in the long term.

7. "I'm always motivated"

   Motivated employees - is a productive worker. Tell us about how your ability to motivate yourself leads you to success in your work. This is a very big advantage to you, because companies are always looking for reliable employees, where they can count on in any situation.

7 things that we should not talk during the interview

Market jobs now more competitive than it was before, and so there is always the employer from whom to choose. If you do not want to ruin their prospects of a place, you should not be like those applicants who first say what they think. To properly prepare for the interview, examine the list of what is not necessary to speak at a meeting with the interviewer:

1. "Sorry, I'm late"

   Needless to say, punctuality is a key factor. Hardly a recruiter like the assumption that you are and will be late for work almost every morning.

2. "I will accept this call? "

   Most come in for an interview candidates for some reason believes that there is nothing wrong if during a conversation interrupted to answer a mobile phone call or receive SMS. This is a very big mistake! If you show a serious attitude to the interview, then what it is to expect from your relationship to work ?!

3. "What is the length of your annual leave and any position in relation to the hospital? "

   It does not look good when you start to be interested in the ability to be absent from work, did not even start it.

4. If you are asked: "What do you see yourself in five years? "

   Never say, "I'll be fine to do their job!" Try to build your response around the experiences that you would like to get around and the level of responsibility that you would like to have. The employer wants to see that you do not just build a rainbow "Napoleonic" plans, but think carefully about their prospects.

5. "My former employer was simply awesome! "

   Regardless of how this is true, to talk about it in any case not worth it. Speak badly about your previous job is not only unprofessional and unethical, but also describes you as a person prone to perpetual dissatisfaction. And we have said that we need to show ourselves as optimistic person.

   In addition, if you are expressing dissatisfaction with stormy one place of work, there is no guarantee that you do not start talking bad about that employer. Who would like such a prospect?

6. "I am engaged in the work Synchrophasotron ...! "

   Do not abuse the scientific, industrial or professional jargon during a conversation with a recruiter. It is not necessary that a person engaged in the selection of personnel, has the same professional knowledge that you are. It is better to speak simply and clearly to avoid confusion and misunderstanding.

7. When you are asked what you most expect from their future positions, do not talk about the benefits, wages, extended lunch break or the opportunities to participate in corporate events. Tell me about the experience and knowledge that you expect to find your new job.

14 most difficult questions, to which you have to answer

Of course, not the fact that you will be asked all the fifteen questions, but it's better to be prepared for each of them:

1. "Tell us about yourself"

   Since this question is often the fact that you just had to start the interview, do not rush to tell in detail all his biography. Keep answer a minute or two, no more. Do not talk in detail about his family, about the years of study and your work history. You can talk a little bit about the experience of the last years of your career. Remember, this question is purely for the "warm-up". Do not waste your time and do not try the patience of a recruiter ado.

2.   "What do you know about our organization? "

   You should be able to discuss products or services, reputation, image, goals, problems, history of the organization or firm. But do not speak as if you know almost better than the recruiter. Let your answer show that you took the time to do some research, but would like to learn much more.

   You can start your answer as follows: "During the search operation, I researched a number of companies. Your one of the few that interests me for the following reasons: ... "- then give a positive assessment.

3. "Why do you want to work with us? "

   Here, as throughout the interview, a good answer would be one that would be based on the needs of the company. You can say that your research has shown that the company is doing something with which you would like to deal with, and that it does so in ways that you are very interested. For example, if the organization is known for strong management, it should be noted that you would like to be part of this team. If the company pays great attention to research and development of science, emphasize the fact that you prefer to create something new and know that this is exactly the place where such activity is encouraged.

4. "What can you do for us that we could not have done more? "

   Here you have every right to be a little selfish and only talk about its benefits. Talk about how often you pursue the goal, provide a list of achievements in your career. Say that your skills and interests, combined with the history of your success make you a valuable asset to the company. Mention about your ability to establish priorities, identify problems and use his experience and energy to solve them.

5. "What do you consider that the attractive and less attractive in future work? "

   List three or four attractive factor for you, and unattractive it is better not to focus in your reply. Tell me about something small, insignificant, and can not even talk about it.

6. "Do you think why should we take it for you? "Build your answer, giving priority to your skills, experience and your energy. (See Question 4).
7. "What are you looking for in a job? "

   Keep your answer oriented to opportunities in the organization. Talk about your desire to successfully meet the necessary tasks, and to receive recognition for your contribution to the common cause.

8. "How long do you need to make a meaningful contribution to our firm? "

   Be realistic. Say that it can take from six months to a year before you are well enough studied the organization and its needs to make a significant contribution to the common cause.

9. "How long do you plan to stay with us? "

   Answer that you are interested in building a career in the organization, but admit that you would like to feel free in their choice. Say that you are interested in cooperation, as long as it is mutually beneficial.

10. "Your resume suggests that you have the most qualified or more experienced than that required for the vacant post. Why did you agree to this place? "

    Emphasize your interest in establishing long-term relationships with the organization and say that you assume that if you copes with its responsibilities, then you will open new opportunities. Mention that a strong company needs highly qualified specialists. Imagine that thanks to your work the employer will get a fast return on their investment. Say that a growing, energetic company can never have too much talent.

11. "Why did you leave the old job? "

    The interviewer may spend some time to test the waters on this topic. Be brief and truthful. If you are not sincere, then it may well be that the recruiter will put you on the reference, and your dishonesty will serve you a disservice.

12. "What is the most and, conversely, the least liked you in your previous position? "

    Be careful in his reply and always be positive. As we have repeatedly said, we try as little as possible to talk about the bad, opting for good. And it is in any case it is not necessary to mention personal problems. After all, you do not want to be perceived as a conflict of man?

13. "What kind of payment your work would you like to have? "

    The issue of salary - a very delicate subject. We recommend that you do not have to name the exact number or delay time of the audio you want to pay for as long as it can be done without risking rude. You can say: "I understand that payment of such a range of work ranging from ... to ... and I think it would come to me." And you can answer a question with a question: "Maybe you could help me find the best answer to this question? "

14. "How successful have you been so far? "

    Say that you are quite satisfied with the progress of your career to date. Ups and downs - a normal phenomenon in the life, and the difficulties and setbacks do not scare you, do not interfere with progress toward success.

Talk about yourself confident and optimistic, but not replayed. Hearing the answer like: "Everything is wonderful! I never fail! The sky above me is only the blue and the clouds - very pink! "- Sure the recruiter thinks that you or no confidence, or simply trying to trick him. The most compelling is it quiet confidence.

Remember that the interview - it is an opportunity to sell yourself to a prospective employer. Know their own worth, and we wish you every success!

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How to behave at the interview when applying for a job: rules for success

Contents:

• Talk about appearance
• How to behave - the simple rules that bring success
• How not to behave at the interview

In our time, it is not uncommon, when still quite young girls and guys look for a job - this is high school students who want to earn some money during the holidays, and students who want to combine study and work. Yes, and young professionals who had just left the walls of his alma mater, do not always get a job in distribution. It is for young people and will be interested in our story about how to behave at the interview when applying for a job, a potential employer to see in you the green girl, a promising young business lady.

There are so many details that can affect the way you perceive the recruiter. And the way you carry yourself will become one of the most important indicators. It is important not only what you say but how you look and what manner will be able to shine. Recruiters often wonder not only how much you are qualified to work (he realizes that the experience - will come with time), but also what personal qualities have and how well you will fit into the team. As it is necessary to look and how to behave in order to make a good impression?

Talk about appearance

It is very important what kind of impression you make their appearance on the interviewer - and this too will affect the outcome of the interview. People get the impression of each other for a few seconds at a meeting, so the importance of your appearance is enormous. Only it does not mean you have to wear a sexy outfit and make an impressive makeover - clothes should emphasize not your physical and professional qualities.

Dress appropriately situation

If you go for an interview at the office, you'd better put on a business suit - simple, bright blouse, dark skirt classic. In cold weather, suit jacket or blazer complement classic cut. Shoes should not be too bright and extravagant. In addition, cosmetics and perfumes should be kept to a minimum. In no case can not wear shorts, tank tops, mini-skirts - it would be too unprofessional behavior.

If you go for an interview to get a job in a profession where business suits generally are not (eg, the media, or McDonald's), you can dress more casually. But - never wear jeans to a job interview, because they show you is precisely the very green tomboy, which so carefully trying to hide from the strict eye recruiter.

Of course, for teenagers who are organized on a part-time or summer part time, the rules are not so strict. Dress the girl should be, at least, neat and tidy, and even the choice of style is at the discretion soiskatelnitsy place.

Hair should be neatly combed

It looks like your hair can say a lot about your personality. It is therefore very important that the hair is not randomly hung over the shoulders or have not been filled styling products so that would seem artificial. And indeed, the excessive amount of gel or wax can make you look is not only unprofessional, but also quite serious. Especially do not abuse the gel with the effect of "wet hair" - is excusable only thirteen teenagers.

Hair should be neatly combed and stacked. If you have long hair, they should remove the back - it is better to pull into a ponytail or a bun. Pins and hoops, if you wear them, have to be very modest, almost imperceptible. Remember - you do not come to a beauty contest, and nothing should detract others from your personal and business qualities.

How to behave - the simple rules that bring success

And here we come to the most important: how to behave and what to say to the impression from you was exactly on that you want?

Properly Greet the interviewer

Your greeting will be probably the first contact with the interviewer, so it is very important to show its best side with these very first seconds. Go into the room quietly - without delay, and without too much fuss. Say hello to clearly and precisely, looking into the eyes of recruiters (all eye contact is very important, so try to maintain it throughout the conversation). And be sure to introduce yourself.

Sit properly

You will almost certainly be offered a chair to sit on. You have to sit down so that you feel comfortable to sit for extended periods of time, but that you have positioned yourself as an attentive listener. Our advice: Sit on the edge of a chair, or close to his back. A common mistake is that almost all sit down in the middle of the chair; this will lead to the fact that you have a very fast zatekut tired legs and the back. You stooped, without even noticing, and it will completely destroy the image of a successful woman that you wanted so much to play.

Do not interrupt the interviewer

Always let the recruiter to finish until the end, before you start to talk herself. This is generally a basic rule of communication with people. Put yourself in the shoes of the interviewer, and you will realize that to be interrupted in mid-sentence can be rude and very annoying, especially if you're going to say something very important.

In general, your haste may be unnecessary because it is possible that what you want to ask the interviewer, and so mention during a conversation with you. Be patient, listen carefully everything that recruiter says, and leave matters at that time, when he finished speaking. Also, remember that you can always ask what is left for you outstanding at the end of the interview when the interviewer asks if you have any questions. So take your time to talk, let speak recruiter. Show respect for others, and you call respect.

Show your confidence

It is not necessary to conduct a conversation with the defeatist position. No need to panic or be too sluggish or unresponsive. This will create an image not of a man with whom I would like to face at work every day. Be confident in your abilities, not showing thus daring or narcissism. You must show that you are - that's the girl who would have behaved in a friendly team, great while performing their duties. So tell us about your achievements in the field you are interested in both, while remaining modest.

Keep a positive attitude

You should try to smile and maintain a positive attitude during the entire interview. If what you hear, it sounds to you is not too good, does not frown or look unhappy. Just keep a small smile on her face, until it's time to say something. Thereby you show great self-control and strength of character that obviously will play in your favor.

Maintain eye contact

Once again I want to remind the importance of maintaining eye contact. If you translate a look at the items on the table, or drive around in the room, then you are unlikely to come across as a person interested in the topic of conversation. Here, try to imagine what the recruiter while you talk to him, leads the eye from side to side - you just decide to be that does not interest him as a companion, and that your interview for certain failure. After all, is not it?

Golden rules to succeed

Firmly remember that you must do:

• To know the exact time and place of the interview, so as not to get lost and not be late.
• Coming in advance for at least 10 minutes before the start of the interview that it was time to look around and freshen up.
• Treat all people working in the office, politely and with respect. Even if it's a security guard or worker. By the way, their opinion of you, too, can be taken into account when deciding whether to grant you a job.
• Listen carefully to be sure that you properly understand everything that recruiter says.
• Ask for clarification if you do not understand the question.
• Answer the questions are not too lengthy and speak about their successes, possibly reinforcing words with concrete examples.
• Demonstrate a positive attitude. Interviewer evaluate you as a potential employee; so show the same as you are the person with whom to work comfortably together.
• Try to talk about their business qualities, commensurate with their values ​​and priorities of the company.
• Make sure you understand correctly what will continue to take steps against you; Find out when and from whom you will hear the results of the interview.
• Immediately after the interview, make a mark for themselves, not to forget the next some important details of the conversation.

How not to behave at the interview

You yourself need to understand how not to behave - just remember all that you taught your mom when you were little, and everything will be fine! And yet, we want to remind some of the rules:

Do not be late

You should meet with a man who is at work, and very busy, and it is likely scheduled interviews with other candidates. For you, it would be better if you had a few minutes before the meeting to collect his thoughts, and not fly into the room where you are assigned to a job interview, cursing himself and trying to gather thoughts "in a pile." If the delay is not your fault (because every life can happen!), Do not hesitate a minute to call the recruiter and tell him about his delay, briefly explaining the reason.

Do not be rude

This rule applies not only to the recruiter, but to all with whom you will meet in the organization, including a watchman, a man who will show you the right room, junior staff and other candidates for the vacant position. We are sure that they do not deserve such an attitude, and you do not know how their opinion will affect your future (remember, we talked about this?)

Do not forget names

For each person the sweetest sound - it is uttered aloud his name. Do not forget the name of one person talking, and when the opportunity to call his name. If you are invited for a second interview, make sure that whether the respondent would be to talk with you, and that for the first time.

Do not engage in confrontation

Your interviewer may ask you some tough questions and even provocative or challenge your answers. This is not a personal attack, so stay calm and, if necessary, insisted on his point of view - to show that you know how to keep cool under pressure. By the way, in order to see your reaction to the conflict, most of these questions and are given. Try not to lose face!

Do not lie

This is very important. If you have no experience, you do not say that you have worked. If you are asked about your personal attitude towards the policy of the company - do not talk about what you're not too sure. Do not give false information about themselves. Do not forget that your words may be tested.

Body language

You should be aware of some common mistakes that people make, talking to anyone. We will list only some of them, you should avoid coming to the interview:

• Try not to fidget while talking. It shows a lack of confidence.
• Do not sit, arms crossed, because it speaks about your lack of confidence and that you are talking about does not the whole truth.
• Do not shrug their shoulders, if you asked a question that you find it difficult to respond to the move. Better not answer immediately, but think about the answer to a few seconds. Shrug of the shoulders will create the impression that you do not know the answer to a question.
• Do not answer with a nod or a negative shake of the head. Use words when answering questions.

Several forbidden things

• Do not make excuses, denying his mistake. Take responsibility for your decisions and actions.
• Do not make negative comments about other places where you had to pass an interview.
• Do not treat the interview casually, as if you just walked through the surrounding shops, and wandered down the road. It is insulting for the interviewer, and the organization he represents.
• Do not allow to create the impression that you are interested only in the geographical location of the organization (close to your house, etc.).
• Do not create the impression that the estimated salary interested you more than the actual work itself.
• Do not show if you are desperate for employment and agreed to be absolutely any job.
• Job search and passing the interview can be severe case, disappointing. Do not show your frustration or negative attitude during the interview.
• Do not chew gum during the interview; also inadmissible to enter the room in a cloud of tobacco "flavor."
• Do not let your cell phone calls during the interview. If that happened, apologize and quickly shut it off. You can not view or a text message, distracted by conversation. By doing this you have shown disrespect to the other party.
• Do not take it with you to the interview the parents, spouse, fiance or girlfriend. If you are not independent, to attend an interview alone, then you seem mature enough for it to be adopted at work.

We hope that you will be able to cause a recruiter in their appearance and behavior of positive emotions. We wish you success!

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