How to calm down and begin to live happily: A Handbook for "beginners"

Contents:

• Causes of inner restlessness
• The search for the meaning of life
• The neurotic character
• The unwillingness to take responsibility
• Blocked emotions
• Living in the past and the future
• Live happily

Twenty-first century dictates so frantic pace of life, the number of diseases, nervous breakdowns and mental disorders is through the roof. You probably are and noticed that almost no moments when you feel in harmony with the surrounding world. It is not surprising that modern man is increasingly the question arises: how to settle down and start living?

Causes of inner restlessness

Our head, as usual, is the source of all our problems. Of course, it is possible for a long time to analyze the complexity of the surrounding world and to write off all the nerve overload. However, it is easier from this, you will not, because the world does not change the fact that you just give up on his hand. Much better and more efficient to understand what prevents you to live very quietly. Many philosophers have suggested that the main purpose of man is to live a long and happy life. However it turns out only in units. What is the reason? Why someone gets everything while others can not distract from the plaintive buzzing of a fly, fly in the room?

The search for the meaning of life

Man - the only creature that reflects on why he came to this planet. With animals it is very simple: they are born, reproduce and die, increasing its own population. Man, however, has made a huge leap in the evolutionary development, building a world of its own in the world. His psyche is also more complex, and one of the consequences just lies in the fact that man can not live without a sense of life. Have you noticed how eager eyes of those who know, why live? For example, a young mother: she is busy all day with his son, enough sleep, enough to eat and still feel absolutely happy. Or the doctor who helps people, absolutely calm, get your hands is not an astronomical salary. Even in the most difficult circumstances a person is able to maintain this inner light, if he knows that he needs in this world. However, losing the feeling, he instantly becomes wilted and miserable.

The neurotic character

There are people for whom happiness is unattainable in principle, due to the nature of their personality. They have a so-called neurotic needs that are unsatisfying. Simply put, the needs of people in love, care, respect, attention can not be met - every day people will want more and more. Naturally, this is the reason for his anxiety, because he always feels uncomfortable. What is the need? It is a state of dissatisfaction, some tension and desire to return to the previous feeling of composure. Man with neurotic needs is constantly experiencing anxiety, since even a second is not able to feel comfortable. And the thoughts of worthlessness haunt.

The unwillingness to take responsibility

When you live according to other people's ideas, opinions and instructions anxiety can be your constant companion. It is not surprising, because the lack of control over their own lives is a cause for alarm: you can not even try to predict what awaits you around the next turn of life. All the same can be said about a man who, in principle, takes a children's position in relation to his life. Remember how dangerous the world seemed when you were small? In infantile people going something like this: they always expect "adults" who will come and save them. And those things are not there, that increases the voltage, and the circle closes.

Blocked emotions

We are taught from childhood to keep their feelings: "Do not cry - you're a boy! "" Ceases to be angry - it is indecent! " etc. ... In fact, emotions - this is life. The child grows, develops, and as a response to the interaction with the world around him a feeling, and a variety of: joy, sadness, fear, anger, interest. And if adults are supported by positive emotions, negative and usually do not please anybody. When such displays are blocked in our body begins to accumulate power. It breaks out in the form of psychosomatic illnesses, neurotic habits and other psychological problems. All of these things by themselves are a cause for alarm, but the basis remains the psychological energy of blocked feelings that did not find its expression.

Living in the past and the future

It sounds paradoxical, but, oddly enough, many people choose this way of thinking. Past delays the human cargo of the events as sad and joyful. Many people remain calm in the past, because everything is known and understood. But at the same time, there is a vague anxiety due to the fact that the edge of consciousness man understands his omission. Yet most people are experiencing because of the future. What do I get on the exam, when he calls, how many children we will have - all these and many other questions charming break our heads every day, if not every hour. Of course, thinking about it, we feel worry and anxiety, rather than to say: "Take it easy! "And live in the present.

Live happily ever after!

The list of possible causes for the alarm impressive. And yet, how to calm down and begin to live in the present? Do not think that all will pass by itself. We hasten to upset you, but to begin to live happily ever have to work on yourself.

1. Be natural.

   As already stated above, live for today and show emotions. You should not hold them back inside and save yourself - it's no good will not. Of course, do not yell at the chief good mate and sell an apartment with a view to give the proceeds to the poor (unless you want a lifetime to do it). But some certain degree of ease and crazy to be present.

2. Do not think about the bad.

   We have been taught since childhood - to predict the possible adverse consequences of our actions. However, those who have it firmly in the habit, it is very often not able to feel good because of the constant feeling of anxiety that dwelleth with them in the shower. We do not encourage you to go to extremes and to be impenetrable optimistic, but think about it: life expectancy last much higher than that of pessimists.

3. Learn to accept criticism.

   Very often we are experiencing because of what someone said about us, that something bad. Only here it is necessary to separate the wheat from the chaff. There is constructive criticism, the purpose of which is the real improvement of your business or something else. And there are destructive, which is used to frustrate and humiliate you. So, from the latter is simply to learn to ignore, and the first to take into account, and then stop your self-esteem suffer.

4. Channeled energy.

   Very often anxiety is a result of accumulated stress in you. If this power will not build out, she quickly finds a use, and usually unpleasant for the wearer, that is for you. Instead, listen to the recommendations of the banal to find a hobby or exercise - it really works!

5. Learn humility.

   Yes, all kinds of business and diaries Quotations success teach us that we can not give up and must always fight to the end. Did you know that the most common disease in the business - a heart attacks, hypertension and duodenal ulcer? It is those disorders that are peculiar to people without existing relaxation and harmony in the soul. Therefore, if you want to live happily ever after, you learn to resign ourselves to the fact that you can not change.

Soothing and follow our simple guidelines - then your quality of life significantly improved.

And if you suddenly come upon some deeper and more serious problem in itself, it is always possible to consult a qualified psychologist who can help you overcome it.